!dadforaminute@lemmy.world are great for anyone that needs a parental perspective, pep talk, or even just practical advice about DIY. Really recommend them it’s a fantastic group of people

This really isn’t nice at all. In the UK, some communities are plain speaking to the point that it sounds awful to other people, but what you’ve described would be abusive anywhere here.

I’m a domestic abuse outreach worker and warning signs for domestic abuse perps as per DA expert Lundy Bancroft are a good way of telling if someone has an abusive personality. They include:

Jealousy/possessiveness, Jekyll and Hyde, selfish, doesn’t accept they’re wrong, unrealistic expectations, double standards, relationship moves fast, substance misuse, speaks disrespectfully about exes, pressures for sex, intimidates when angry.

What’s your feeling?

There’s a man in the office I work in who is lovely, a really nice man. We don’t have a lot to say to each other, but he obviously genuinely likes and values me. It’s really nice

Nice work! I’m in awe of your DIY skills

He spoke Spanish. And obviously there are almost no Spanish speakers in America, and never have been. So therefore its not American

Immediate positive. Anything that pisses him off makes me a happy butterfly

I no longer tolerate shitty friends. Gonna treat me badly? We’re done. It’s helped cos I’ve found fewer quality friends are much better than more shit ones

Continuing with job hunting, which will likely be my answer every monday for 6 to 12 months

MODERATORS!!!

Oh hey champ!

That’s an elegant doggo

I approve

Oh good I’m glad

Ooooh not heard of that one thanks

Atreeeyyyuuuuu

That beautiful skyline destroyed it is devastating and tragic 😥

God omega I’m so sorry I should have thought, I’ll delete it. Hope you’re pk

I love cats but I loathe the cat hair everywhere

Chocolate! Absolutely fucking love it

I’m writing loads of applications for new jobs. I’ve not done this for nearly 20 years so holy shit am I ever out of practice! Fuck I’ve had to get creative working out wtf they want me to say and saying it in the right word count and format