so i know this one girl who’s pretty freaky, if you know what i mean, and got mad at me because i didn’t share her interest in gay porn manga, but i just could never get into it. i prefer romantic rather than sexual content, and as a lesbian, i prefer romance between two women.

some people say, especially men, say it’s not okay due to fetishization of gay men and straight women not knowing the queer or the male experience, but someone else said they should be able to enjoy what they want and to say that it’s not ok was “gatekeeping” interests.

my friend is also pretty immature, but it’s ok. like, she thinks women kissing is gross and it “doesn’t sit right with her” but is fine with men kissing, and says women don’t attract her and only has interests and crushes on men but then says she’s bi? maybe she prefers men, idk???

anyway, what’s wrong with it so i can learn better??

      • TribblesBestFriend
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        4 days ago

        Are she actively stoping you to kiss your girlfriend or stoping you to try to hit on people ?

        Have you made your coming out to this person? If so maybe she’s trying to tell you that she’s not interested but it’s a shitty way to do it.

        Now for the gay porn, I presume that we’re talking soft porn here, look at the success of Heated Rivalery. People kind of love to watch heated passion and beautifully cut bodies. Now if it’s not your thing : good (I find that Heated Rivalery is mostly objectifying male bodies, there’s better gay love stories out there) but I guess people need their oomph sometimes.

        Overall, I feel from what you’ve write, that she is not a good friend

        • clare@piefed.socialOPEnglish
          2·
          4 days ago

          no, we don’t hang out much so she never sees me kissing my girlfriend, it just “doesn’t sit right” with her.

          she knows, i have a girlfriend and she has had multiple crushes (all guys) and i’ve told her i’m sapphic

          idk what it is, it’s like censored dicks but sex scenes in manga. my partner (im poly) likes heated rivalry, idk much about it, i’ve only heard of straight women and them liking it.

          • TribblesBestFriend
            3·
            4 days ago

            Look like hentai to me

            Not a specialist but there’s a weird culture in Japan with manga about boys that love boys (shonen ? (I think shonen are manga about a boys that save the world, like Naruto. Edit: Found it : BL shonen but I was specifically thinking Yaoi) Someone better than could give you the specific name). IIRC they’re specifically developed for women and could have really compelling story line. So maybe this could not be about gays but a clear preference for this type of medium.

            • clare@piefed.socialOPEnglish
              1·
              4 days ago

              oh yeah, hentai! she did say something about preffering the storyline.

              in fact, she gave 3 reasons

              1. storyline is better with mlm than with wlw

              2. women just don’t attract her, as she puts it

              3. women kissing doesn’t sit right with her, nor does it if they have sex

              • TribblesBestFriend
                2·
                4 days ago

                Hentai are not the deprave thing we think they are (in the west).

                Had a friend that stay in Japan for nearly a year explain to me that hentai books, when finished, are abandoned in public space (like other manga) for other people to read

                I have girl friends that are in accord with her first argument. Yaoi seems to be better written