• @0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works
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    16 months ago

    Yeah, I get it… some people are just not witty or funny enough, or maybe pick their sexual partners… that’s cool as well 👍 😉.

    But trust me, if you’re witty, funny and can strike an interesting conversation, even if it is just for a hookup, she will call you back. Of course, be good in bed, that also counts, but even if you’re not that good, she might still like just to hang out with you, and who knows, maybe at the end of the evening, you hook up again 🤷.

    • @feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world
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      06 months ago

      I am very good in bed. I have terrible self-esteem issues, so if there was any doubt there I would think I was the worst lover in history. And people definitely find me witty and funny. I’m just shit at reading people, I would tend to assume people aren’t interested rather than the opposite. I am getting laid at the moment so I shouldn’t complain too much, but I’ve always struggled between (admittedly very attractive) partners. It’s very annoying.

      • @0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works
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        6 months ago

        I’m just shit at reading people, I would tend to assume people aren’t interested rather than the opposite.

        Yeah, have made that mistake myself as well. I was born with that part or my brain lobotomized as well, but I learned to compensate for it over time. Like I’m also naturally (I would say I have a gift for it) am good in bed (always take care of my partner’s needs and wants, easily adjustable to whatever she wants, can read body languange easily, can go on for a long time, but this primarily because I like to edge 😁, though I don’t share that with hookups 😂), so that kinda strikes them as “wooow, he doesn’t look like it, but this guy is reeeally good”. And I really am nothing to look at, like I have a beer belly (not too big though), beard, long hair, body hair, not that good looking (not ugly either)… you could say I look kinda like a biker dude, but the conversations, being funny, making jokes left and right, yeah, that catches their attention.

        And yes, I forgot to mention that part as well, selfasteem. Really important 👍. Act like you’re a million bucks even if you aren’t. She says she’s not into guys with high selfasteem? Trust me, she’s lying… or she’s one of the few that finds that repulsive in a male, but those kinds of women are weird, so I wouldn’t want her anyway. In either case, you should defininitely make a strong appearance. Not too strong though, like a chad, cuz that can be repulsive, I admit, even for males. But, a good dose, yeah, just enough for everyone to be comfortable with you and get her interested.