I found this article some days ago and I think it’s really good. It gives a broad overview, answers typical questions and points out typical prejudice about bisexuality. I think it might be really helpful to someone who is just trying to figure themself out. Maybe we could put it in the sidebar?
I feel you. I’m also married to the opposite gender and we’re together since we were teenagers. So I never hand any “trying out”-phase. Even though I knew gender plays no role in my attraction I never felt that I’m allowed to call myself bisexual or queer. It only changed when I’ve joined some LGBTQ±communities as “ally”. Thankfully they were very welcoming and quickly I felt good about calling myself bisexual.
So yay for being married and still bi!
For me, a big part of it has always been just refusing the toxic cultural package you inherit as a hetero male. That’s never been me and it’s never going to be me. And that has little to do with who is or isn’t in my bed on a given day.