I’ve figured out Iwas trans around a year ago. I’ve more accepted it 6-8 months ago, and fully embraced the identity a few months ago.

I feel like I’m able to see myself as a woman more often(presenting or not; probably the longer hair) but I find it hard to consciously switch names and pronouns since I feel like I still very much present masc¿and don’t look so femme, even if I want to.

It’s like, it feels somewhat in-genuine, you know? Deep, deep down, I want to be her, but also I don’t want the confrontation of, “you don’t look like a ‘her’.”

I just need some advice/encouragement. My therapist has asked multiple times if they should switch name/pronouns, but it’s so difficult face-to-face and not socially out.

Help plz?

Edit: I’m not sure how this ended up in the meme community 😅 I posted it late at night, but I thought I got /c/mtf instead

  • Rei@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I didn’t really get comfortable with it before changing. I only got used to it a while after changing.

    Before and after, there were feelings of guilt, shame, and fear. And the imposter syndrome on top of that.

    I would like to encourage you to try with your therapist and if you’re privileged enough to have them, trusted friends. Those are helpful spaces to make you more comfortable.

    • Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Imposter syndrome! Yes! That’s what I’m afraid of. I may have to take my therapist up on that offer. I haven’t because I just don’t feel fem enough, but I guess, really, lots of people do about various things.