It’s a simple plan…

  • Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    16 days ago

    As a grown ass man, if that was the peak of my problems I think I’d be feeling pretty great right now.

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    16 days ago

    I’m 30 and majority of my friend group says Sigma, skibidi, rizz on a daily basis. Tiktok memes are getting everyone I can’t even laugh at these kids anymore because my friends are just as cringe but without the excuse of being 13.

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    16 days ago

    The kid probably gets a kick out of making the whole class stay. Punishment needs to exclude them, like that’s the very nature of punishment.

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      16 days ago

      From what I understand from my experience, the philosophy is that by pissing off the other kids they will call out the shitty kid when they act out.

      Of course, this has never worked a single time in human history, but schools keep fucking doing it for some reason.

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        16 days ago

        It doesn’t work because bullying is punished by the school. How are they supposed to teach their peers valuable lessons. /s

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          16 days ago

          You use /s but that is the double standard I always thought of. That and how it seemed odd that they wanted us to be responsible for babysitting each other.

          Sorry this has got me a little heated bc this kinda shit happened to me all the time in school and it sucks to know it’s still an issue.

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          16 days ago

          I’m autistic, so grain of salt, but I’ve been specifically advised to do something that feels like bullying to me by someone with a degree early child development. I think the difference is that I’m unlikely to take it too far, but maybe they were just a radical and I absolutely should not be doing this. What do you guys think:

          After a 3-5 year old kid goes to the bathroom, ask if they washed their hands, and if they say no, you make a grossed out face and say “eeeewww, that’s dirty. You need to do that before we can play together.”

          It’s obviously a more constructive type of “bullying” than is standard, and you’re supposed to pair it with exaggerated relief and excitement to play as soon as they’ve washed their hands, so the last impression in the kid’s head isn’t rejection, but it still feels mildly iffy to me. I’m fucking terrible with kids though, so I don’t trust my own instincts.

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            15 days ago

            I don’t think it’s bullying, because bullying involves tormenting them - finding what they react negatively to, and pushing on that. Here, you’re letting them know that there’s something you need them to do before you’re comfortable playing with them. You might think of it as modelling how to protect your own bodily autonomy!

            For me, when my kids were going through that, I’d say something like “Ack! Don’t touch me with poo hands! Go wash first, then you can climb on me!” It’d generally get a giggle, then they’d go finish washing up. You’ll want to pay attention to their reaction whatever you do, but if you make it clear they’re still welcome to play, I don’t see how it could be bullying.

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        16 days ago

        It works in military settings, where you are expected to work as you team and keep an eye on your colleagues. Not so much in a school.

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        14 days ago

        Oh, it works… It turns the group against the kid. They may or may not attempt to police the behavior, but they won’t do it effectively. They will resent the kid though

        And isolated kids are famous for being obedient

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    16 days ago

    Now what the young ladies in this grade need is an attitude makeover. And you’re going to get it, right now. I don’t care how long it takes. I will keep you here all night. (Joan the Secretary: We can’t keep them past four.) I will keep you here until four.

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    16 days ago

    Growing up rural there were lots of troubled kids everyone basically ignored. Nothing would get through to them so their outbursts were basically ignored. One kid has a tic where he’d yell “yee haw, stick it in your grandma!”. Over and over.

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    I doubt this happened because of busses that’d leave or parents wondering where the hell their kids are while they are waiting.

    I doubt a private school would put up with a consistent disruptive student or with a teacher losing control of a class so bad that they keep everyone behind while also having to deal with angry paying parents.

    It’s possible but I doubt it’d happen more than once with that teacher.

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      16 days ago

      Could be… Not American? A Dutch 13 year old bikes to middle school. As does 80 %. Of em…

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          16 days ago

          In Germany it happens. But the teacher will get in trouble if smb. Snitches.

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        16 days ago

        Yeah good point. I’m definitely guilty of looking at it through an NA centric lens on my post. Thanks for the perspective.

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        16 days ago

        Often children from more rural areas take the bus there too. The parents would still be upset and I don’t even think normal detention is allowed at most schools (at least I don’t know of anyone who ended up there, just teachers scheduling extra lessons to make up for the lost time).

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      16 days ago

      Yeah, teachers just make them miss part of their breaks or whatever during school hours. My kids are about this age and come home occasionally with stories of some kid who wrecks things for everyone resulting in missing outside or other free time, or loss of whatever break from class work that may have been offered as a reward for conformity.

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      15 days ago

      But this is from Reddit… Surely they are posting the truth and not attempting to tell embellishing stories because their life is not interesting in the slightest right?

      Arthur - “You really think someone would do that? Just go on the internet and tell lies?”

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      They said they had to stay behind for 30 minutes, but they didn’t say what they stayed behind from. Lunch, maybe, or study hall? Recess, if they’re at a rare middle school that still offers it? Art? Seems like there’s a way it could work.

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    16 days ago

    I can relate. Being 13 would pair really bad with my drunk driving

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    16 days ago

    Don’t worry, one day you’ll get to grow up and complain about the next generation behaving in the exact same way! Kids these days, amirite?

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      16 days ago

      Our generation would have at least done something creative, like smear shit all over a bathroom stall, or leave scorch marks on the ceiling from deodorant flamethrowers, or scratch up a window with the teacher’s quartz crystal… Kids today don’t have the same spirit.

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    15 days ago

    I remember when a 10th grader banged a 7th grader in the chapel of my school. He was the son of a pastor too.