Lots of video games.
…Does it have to be a healthy coping mechanism?
Poorly.
I endure, painfully.
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Whatever that is it just shows up as a square on my end.
It’s a [hug] emote.
There is a singular niche community that I involve myself with where I pop in and make highly desired items to give away for free.
It makes me feel like people care about me for a while. For now, that’s good enough for me.
I picked up a sport this year. People are surprisingly friendly.
I pretend to have imaginary friends in my head until it seems like real enough and the day passes.
I don’t know if you’ve seen this before, but I recommend the Kurzgesagt video on loneliness.
It hit me quite deep, first time I saw it.I focus on spending time with friends and family when I can. And video games when I can’t. I stopped pushing myself to do things I didn’t want to do also, that helped a lot with being disappointed in what I achieve. BG3 is nice therapy these days for me.
Sit through it
Distract
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Though my lizard brain demands me to be around other people, most of the things that bring me genuine life satisfaction are just easier to do solo. When I’m at purely social events I also get this sense of dread that I could be making better use of my time.
The voice in my head is making contradictory demands, so I’ve learned to not feel bad for circumventing it. I have my own goals in life, instincts be damned.
I find that listening to people casually talking is usually enough to satisfy the lizard brain, so I listen to a lot of stuff in the background: YouTube video essays, Twitch Just Chatting streamers, etc. When it gets particularly demanding I’ll try engaging with the people, but usually I just let my subconscious listen while I’m focusing on more important stuff.
I gather unto me, as much of this nectar as I can whilst not harming too many friends and family. Then I enjoy it.
For me, my loneliness was really rooted in my self-loathing. When I was able to deal with that, I was able to deal with my feelings of loneliness.
Alcohol… Feel like ive been overindulding in it for a few years… but what else to do?
Be careful with it. It’s a slippery slope and one I’m too familiar with. Switch to weed if you can. May not be as accessible as alcohol depending on where you live but it will distract you just as well as alcohol and is much safer long term for you than alcohol. No hangovers and for most it’s not habit forming. Wish I could go back in time and change the past decisions I’ve made.
Check out !stopdrinking@lemmy.world
Similar to r/stopdrinking community. There’s people there that can help
This is one of the worst ways to deal with it. Alcohol causes depression which only makes situation worse.
Start drawing.
And a bit of walking.
