• fallentides@lemmy.one
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    23 hours ago

    We ladies must look desirable; the fashion styles changed to accentuate my hips and my tits, my baby making parts. That’s all I’m here to do anyways. Historically, prly religion upholding the patriarch; same difference. Hide them elbows and ankles!

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      20 hours ago

      As a man, I wish clothes would make me feel desirable. I have asked my girlfriend which clothes she would like to see me in, but she says it’s not about the clothes. That it doesn’t matter. It’s more about what I do. So I just dress in plain, comfortable, practical clothes which makes me, well, practical. Useful. I often wish I had options to just be desired for my body, without the pressure to achieve this or that to be desirable. It’s a source of sadness for me.

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        11 hours ago

        I mean, looking like you know what you’re doing, looking confident doesn’t mean you have to dress plain.

        Also I am sure gym bros will complement you on your body. Kind of like how as a straight man I only get compliments on my facial hair from other men. Look for validation from your friends not randos

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          7 hours ago

          True, I don’t have to dress plain, but if clothes make no difference for her, I just wear what I feel most comfortable in. I know how I react when I see her in yoga pants, and I wish I had the option to affect her similarly through clothing.

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            7 hours ago

            Comfort can be about how you look. I have some clothes that are super comfortable, but if I wore them out in public I would be arrested because I look like a drug dealer. Find something comfy in the way that it reflects how you want to be seen