Nope. I usually think “I should go out more” and then when I’m still recovering two days later I think “Ah, this is why I don’t go out more.”
And when you look at your bank account the next day
Why would I do that to myself, I wait for the credit card statement and take it all in at a gulp
If I don’t look at my account online, does it even really exist?
If an empty bank account is unobserved, is it truly empty?
The amount of money I don’t have remains the same, does it not?
Banks charging you for not having enough in your bank account, then “protecting” you from that overdraft for 40 dollars tells us an empty bank account contains approximately -100 dollars.
relevant (?) Bill Watterson
Yep, I always try to keep it going a 2nd day too extending my hangover to a week
Yep. It’s somewhat ingrained in UK culture, at least for people of my gen. I’m 48 this weekend, and plan on staying in with my fam and maybe having a few beers. But that’s only because I’m off for a city break with friends next week to see The Beta Band and basically eat and drink for 2 days. Can’t wait.
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Tribal mentality. A lot of people conform to the ‘Hate them… not you though, you’re one of ours’ mindset.
“Fucking hate poofs. Not Barry though, he grew up around here, he’s alright.”
“We should shoot all the [insert racist bollocks here]. Not Abdul who runs the corner shop though, he calls me ‘boss’ when I go in.”
Etc. If only their sense of tribe extended a bit further.
Funny but relevent:
No idea if you already know these places (you probably do) but The Cobblestone, Peader Brown’s, and McDowells are all great pubs that are perfectly happy serving a drink to anyone of any orientation.
Sorry for the bother if you already know.
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Fair play to you :)
Every time I go out.
At most social events like disco, big parties etc, where the goal is wrecking your liver and dance to shitty music, while losing your hearing in the meantime.
Even with some friends, you cannot talk to them because everything is loud or stinks like shitty cigarettes. What’s the point?
Why would you ever go to parties with shitty music? The goal is to go to parties where the djs are good and playing music you like.
The parties with shitty music where everyone is getting shitfaced are for hooking up, that’s the primary goal for those and for the people that attend them. If that’s not your goal you’re obviously not gonna enjoy it.
If you want to go out to dance to good music, there’s also parties for that, where people might drink but no one is getting shitfaced. People might be getting high in other ways, but still, no one is getting shitfaced.
And idk, is it really crazy to understand why human beings, a species that evolved for millions of years to be the most social species outside of insects, would enjoy going to social events…?
You might just be ND, and that’s fine. But it’s really like 0 brain effort to try to understand this.
I literally answered the post question, i don’t know why you got so passionate about this. Read my other comment if you’re curious, i enjoy different social events…
Omg 🤓
This is the THE most terminally online dork response I’ve ever seen.
I mean, i prefer hiking and nature. I also enjoy live performance of groups i listen to, but numb disco with dumb music is an hard pass for me
That’s fine. I even somewhat agree with you. However, acting like you are above doing what millions of people enjoy is some real dork shit.
i’m usually not very aware of my own mental state but there have been at least two times where my brain has just clicked into “we need to go home” mode and i’ve stood up and left in the middle of a conversation. makes me wonder how many times i’ve missed that queue and become grumpy as a result. i know at least one time where i basically just couldn’t muster the effort to emote anymore and basically shut down.
Good on you for identifying that as a pattern. Could help you listen to the signs before it comes to shutting off emotionally - must be taxing after all
Every. Single. Time.
I try to avoid going out at annoying times - e.g., rush hour, school zones, restaurants on a Friday or Saturday night. That helps a lot.
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You could’ve also talked to them about it. Ghosting is such an asshole move, making them question whether it was their fault, when in reality you just reached the conclusion that you want to spend your free time differently
Ppl assume ghosting = ignoring responses (maybe its supposed to) but when I ghost I just stop hitting them up first and eventually they stop hitting me up, ppl treat it like its ghosting so I assume it also counts but it doesn’t feeel/seem as bad
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Never be scared to duck out early from something that is not fulfilling. I’ve left group gatherings to go hiking solo because it was more enjoyable.
Last Sunday. A friend asked me to go with him to town, normally I say no but I figured I would just because I usually don’t.
We went to town and went to a store. As we were about to leave, his truck wouldn’t start. (The starter was fried.) Ended up having to walk a mile and a half to his nephew’s place, then got a ride back to my friend’s truck, towed it to his brother’s shop, and after borrowing some tools I ended up pulling the starter off a car in the middle of a field, and installing it in his truck so we could finally head back home.
What was supposed to be an enjoyable hour or so ended up taking most of the afternoon and I ended up covered in oil and mud and sore as hell by the time I finally got back to my house.
An afternoon wrenching after a short adventure with my buddies sounds like a day well spent to me.
If it was planned out and some beer was involved it would have been a lot better IMO… I had already spent the entire morning mowing my buddy’s yard and trimming trees for him, so my batteries were already low before all that happened.
You seem like an amazing and reliable friend. I hope you’re not afraid of being an amazing and reliable friend to yourself too, sounds like you deserve it.
Not sure if I am but thank you, I always try to help anyone who needs it. My buddy is terrible at fixing things, so I’ve been doing a lot of work for him and his mom.
I mean posing the question like that is kind of a self fulfilling prophecy, no?
On the other hand, as neurodivergent this hits everytime I leave the house.
Every time someone nearly changes lanes into me, or slams their brakes, or whatever. I like operating a motor vehicle. I hate other drivers.
Yes. And I don’t entirely understand why most other people don’t.
I tend to enjoy it once Im out, it’s just overcoming that inertia to go out that’s hard for me
Ohh yes, but usually at event stuff because of the crowd and noise, and parking if i drivin.
But 100% of the time it’s when i go for a movie, it’s too cold if there’s no crowd, too noisy and 80% chance of people kicking my seat if full. I pay money to have my experience soured by either the venue or peoples. No thanks.
