I’m writing this as someone who has mostly lived in the US and Canada. Personally, I find the whole “lying to children about Christmas” thing just a bit weird (no judgment on those who enjoy this aspect of the holiday). But because it’s completely normalized in our culture, this is something many people have to deal with.
Two questions:
What age does this normally happen? I suppose you want the “magic of Christmas” at younger ages, but it gets embarrassing at a certain point.
And how does it normally happen? Let them find out from others through people at school? Tell them explicitly during a “talk”? Let them figure it out on their own?
I’m seeing a lot of judgement on pretending Santa exists vs being 100% truthful with your kids. I don’t think either way is a bad way, but don’t judge others if they choose to pretend Santa is real.
With that being said, I do agree that if you are going to go with the Santa story, when the kid asks if they are real you should be truthful.
I just went through this with my 9 year old. She just came up one day and asked me if Santa was real and I told her no. There were a lot of follow up questions and it made her realize the tooth fairy, Easter Bunny, etc were the same situation. She asked me why we pretended Santa was real and I explained for us it was nice to see the magic that they felt from a stranger being kind just for kindness sake.
For me personally, I think it’s a good lesson for kids to begin logically questioning their world and what they’ve been told.