Like my brain goes completely numb when I’m being yelled at

  • thews@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    My best advice is to avoid people who yell at you. You can express your boundaries and let whoever know how that makes you feel, and what you can’t accept.

    If the yelling isn’t retaliatory from some bad thing you did to them, you could also ask them if they are okay.

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      1 year ago

      I’m not a fan of avoidance technique off the bat as that just exacerbates disassociative disorders even worse. life isn’t a clean ‘no confrontation’ experience. That said, we don’t owe abusive people an audience.

      If a person is doing something wrong and someone else is overreacting or maybe they are perfectly in their right to be yelling (if you killed their pet or something) then yeah, you can expect some fallout from this! You’re not a victim in a circumstance of ‘being yelled at’ when the bigger picture is you did something that really hurt a person to that degree that they are broken and cannot respond ‘appropriately’.

      In circumstances where it’s just someone is being overreactive,yeah, Usually just stating “stop yelling” should be enough. If they keep at it, then definitely leave. That person is not owed an audience or a person to abuse.