Towards the beginning of the school year I was a lesbian, and now I’m a guy. Anyway, when I asked her out, Jess said she’d love to get to know me first, and asked me out after a week or so of “talking”. Then, I found out she never even liked me and just didn’t wanna feel bad for saying no, then claimed she was aroace. Someone online, however, said she probably just lied to get out of the relationship because she also never flirted with me but said she would kiss and sleep with boys. She then said she was straight and started dating a guy about a week later.
She asked me to be her English partner for an assignment recently just because I was the only one she knew in our English class. Sometimes she smiles and waves and says we’re friends. Other times, she doesn’t even bother getting to know me, barely talks, and says we’re acquaintances. I also tried to start conversations with her and she just abruptly ends it and doesn’t add anything so the conversation is really one-sided.
My mom thinks she wants to be left alone but then sometimes she acts like she likes me and wants to be my friend. We’re not close enough where I can just ask her “What do you think of me?” she’d probably think that was weird and might lie to not hurt my feelings.
It’s possible she does want to be a friend but is worried you’ll read too much into it. It’s also possible she’s just using you as someone to talk to when she’s got no one else. Either could explain the mixed signals you seem to be getting.
I’d let her come to you. If a friendship organically happens then it does. If it doesn’t it doesn’t.
Yeah best to just leave her alone buddy. No point putting energy into something like this. Enjoy life with people who reciprocate your friendship!
I think you should let HER come to YOU
This comes free with the masculinity package you ordered. Welcome, and enjoy!
Only 2/3rds joking… Some people have a really hard time being direct. Sometimes it’s because they don’t know or feel confused, but that’s more rare than you’d think. Gotta just take the hints. Step back, get some distance, take a breather. If she doesn’t approach you later then that’s that. If she approaches you and wants to be friends, then you can decide if that’s what you want (but if yes: make damn sure you aren’t going into it expecting more, otherwise you should just let it go)
It’s okay to make a bold move and shoot your shot, but you gotta back up after that; give them space and control. For example, if she doesn’t truly want to be friends and is just saying that because you’re present and can’t tell you to go away (for whatever reason), then it’ll be bad for both of you if you try to make it really work.
