• RGB3x3@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    Have you asked a woman what dating these days is like? There really are a lot of shit men.

    These shit men are inattentive, either unemotional or emotionally unstable, irresponsible, unable to do household chores, and unwilling to properly take care of children.

    The awful stories my wife tells me about before we started dating are astounding. I’m a man btw, and I know so many of these guys who became husbands and their wives are so frustrated with them.

    Do we blame the men entirely? I don’t think we should. The gen X dads were incredibly hands off because their parents, the boomers, were super overbearing. Therefore, so many men were not taught properly how to be attentive spouses and fathers.

    • ᴇᴍᴘᴇʀᴏʀ 帝@feddit.uk
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      8 months ago

      These shit men are inattentive, either unemotional or emotionally unstable, irresponsible, unable to do household chores, and unwilling to properly take care of children.

      The gen X dads were incredibly hands off because their parents, the boomers, were super overbearing. Therefore, so many men were not taught properly how to be attentive spouses and fathers.

      It’s not a recent thing, there have always been shut men - it’s a source of great debate in the family about how my grandfather ever wooed my grandmother (we blame her upbringing in a military family for her putting up with an emotionally unavailable man) and my parents were always mystified how a couple of the wives in their friendship/parenting circle had ever fallen for the husbands. I’m Gen X and how some of my male friends managed to get hitched is a mystery, some of them where they’re at least superficially charming are on their second divorces.

      So the litany of woes in the article is a tale as old as time, it’s just that women don’t have to put it with it any more. It doesn’t appear that this has led to guys raising their game though.

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      8 months ago

      Generally speaking, Millennials had Boomer parents whereas Gen X had Silent Generation parents. While obviously there are many exceptions, typically every other generation is related. Gen X had the Zoomers, and Millennials are currently churning out Alphas.

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      8 months ago

      While I agree with the general sentiment that women are not interested in assholes and men are largely responsible themselves for their poor success, your list of flaws suggests that every single woman ever on the dating market provides these qualities, and should thus expect them in a partner. This isn’t the case at all. Why should a man be expected to be all the things when the average woman checks barely half your list?