No more cape shit once you hit 30. Do some praxis instead or read a good book.

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    I think it comes from a place of appreciating certain media as you age that you couldn’t get into when you were younger, but now transports you to incredible places emotionally while the angsty stuff that spoke to you as a teen just doesn’t speak to you anymore. Then you see other people your numerical age who haven’t made that transition and start to wonder what it is that keeps them in arrested development. Nothing to do with sterility and joylessness.

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      i think rhe assumption that people will go down this linear progression in taste is flawed, given that lots of people keep the same tastes their whole life and are otherwise perfectly functional.

      i am beginning to regret the slop and treat memes. moralizing media consumption easily dips into ableism, it’s often just a way to act smug about superficial preferences instead of actually criticizing the parts of popular media that are actually bad, like the CIA propaganda or exploitation in production.

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        I’m not smug, I’m just annoyed that I have fewer people to talk with shit about because they refuse to branch out from media meant for literal children. Like how we’re all here because it’s nice to discuss socialist ideas. Having people to talk with who are on the same wavelength as you is nice. I met a guy at a wedding last month who said his hobby was watching family guy. Like what the fuck do you say to that.

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          i know people who literally have a special interest in barney. the fuckin’ purple dinosaur. like you can’t operate in an autistic space if you’re unable to get on with people who don’t share a show with you, so the alternative is generally learning to appreciate others enjoying shit you don’t

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            I (neuroatypical) would rather you didn’t hold us up as a shield against criticism of Disney adults.

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              Too bad, not gonna throw the many autistics that got shit for “age inappropriate” interests under the bus so people can make bad criticisms of something they find annoying.

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              I (neuroatypical) would rather they do, actually, and actually have solidarity with people who are blatantly being hit with barely disguised ableism

              It’s such a small jump from “marvel special interest is reactionary” to “furries are bourgoisie decadence” that it’s deeply concerning to me

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          I didn’t think you were being smug at all, but there is a growing small sect of people on the left who believe that it is abelist or a bad thing to criticize the current obsession with pop media.

          Like dog, I’ll still find it an unhealthy part of capitalist and consumer culture that there are 40 year old men who do nothing but collect video games or funko pops.

          Yeah you can enjoy things, but don’t make media your entire existence.

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            Unhealthy by what metric, and how are you defining making media your entire existence that somehow doesn’t apply to autistics?

            There’s a growing number because autistic liberation and the ND movement more generally are growing movements, and they challenge normative assumptions about things like interests. If you want to criticize mass media, you’ll have to dig deeper than a surface level digust with people being “weird” about it if you genuinley don’t want to give people shit for being weird.

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              Why do you think grown men getting lost In a world of toys and video games is a good thing? You arguing for consumerism media obsession really off putting to me.

              It seems almost like you’re saying only autistic people have an unhealthy obsession with pop culture.

              Sorry, it’s not ablelist to think grown people having an obsessive need to consume pop culture is a bad thing.

              I get the feeling your defending this behavior because you probably play a ton of video games or something.

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                Having a special interest is not exclusive to autistics, but it does get pathologized - as you’re doing here - which leads to the abusive “cures” a lot of us had to go thorugh as kids. Half of what got Chris-chan harassed and what built up Kiwifarms was their special interest in Sonic, and it’s hard to imagine that shit would have ever gotten so bad if people had simply left her the fuck alone. Whether someone is diagnosed or not, that someone might get shit for passing as autistic is a problem for autistics, I’m not going back to us being used as shorthand for people with bad politics.

                Again, you’re not really defining what you’re meaning by “unhealthy” here, which comes across as simply moralizing. What makes what you’re arguing any different from a chud complaining about “removed” (edit: the d-word they call everything they don’t like)? You’re not even actually complaining about these people actually, materially having worse lives for really liking a specific movie or game or whatever. And you can’t even draw useful conclusions about people from it, because you’re stuck assuming I’m into Marvel or whatever when my special interest is specifically leftist politics. I don’t watch movies or play many games, and those I do play I’m overtly critical of and am varied in my tastes like a lot of NT’s - but because I am in solidarity with people who have been nearly driven to suicide over mockery for their special interest, I’m going to defend their dignity against the people who supposedly are their comrades.

                Haven’t even fully unpacked all he gender roles you’re putting into this either - you very much are specifying “grown men” here to talk about a supposed failure to become a man, which intersects with the autistic masculine experience in a ton of fucked up ways. It’s embarassing and bad for a man to like “childish” things, but I guess it’s less cringe for women because it’s more OK for them to act “childish?” Are autistic men not men?

                I need you to actually point to a materially bad thing, and actually connect it to whatever point you’re trying to make, 'cause otherwise it seems like you’re trying to take a comedy bit from a podcast this website has historically criticized for having dogshit takes and present it as serious politics without even having to take the effort to criticize the obvious shit like cops being presented as heroic figures or fans excusing Rowling’s transphobia. There are actual criticisms of media, like superhero movies becoming this status-quo enforcing thing that has to generate infinite sequels because that is easier for hte purposes of extracting money out of people, that aren’t about moralizing the workers that enjoy it for enjoying it.

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                  Being obsessed with pop culture is cringe because pop culture is overall reactionary. And not only is it reactionary, it will also influence your politics as well. How many people in the 2010s fell for the manic pixie dream girl bullshit? I’ve said this numerous times here before, but people need to ultimately divest from pop culture and find better hobbies. Your investment in pop culture should just be enough that people don’t clock you as some weird ascetic climbing out of your cave to incoherently rant about why Disney movies are fascist before returning to your hole.

                  As far as autistics are concerned, I don’t see them as somehow more obsessed with pop culture than NTs. Some autistics might be obsessed with pop culture because it’s their special interest while NTs are obsessed with pop culture because they want to fit in and because of FOMO. The respective reasons might be different (special interest vs wanting to fit in), but the result is still the same: they get brainwashed by reactionary slop. Since the manner in which they become obsessed with pop culture is different, the manner in which they can divest with pop culture is also different. If anything, it’s easier for the autistic to divest because it’s just a manner of finding a new special interest that’s not tied to pop culture while NTs who find social value in pop culture can never truly divest from pop culture.

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        I think it’s inherently a bad thing to he obsessed with pop media and nothing else. Fanboys of corporations are a plague and should be dealt with ruthlessly.

        Nintendo fanboys, Disney adults etc.

        The only people I see who don’t like the “slop memes” are people who are usually too into pop media themselves.

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          And I think that is a bad take, and I base that on the frequent complaints about that take in autistic spaces. I literally haven’t seen a Marvel movie, I listen to theory as audiobooks while I’m at work, my position is based on the awful shit that gets done to autistics to “correct” this supposedly bad behavior.

          If one wanted to criticize the internalization of bad ideas in mass media, like “US are the world police and that is good” then sure, but media as a reflection of moral chatacter is some 19th century “everything has to quote Shakespeare because intellectuals read Shakespeare” shit.

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          The only people I see who don’t like the “slop memes” are people who are usually too into pop media themselves.

          All of my interests are comically niche. It just rubs me the wrong way.

          This is altogether an assumption. Everyone I’ve seen criticize the meme has had literally no attachment to pop culture, and have stated so themselves.