I may be dumb, but I can’t really imagine someone not seeing boobs, even small ones, through a shirt…YMMV, I guess 😆

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    no no most cis people seem to be comically oblivious, especially if you’re boymoding

    on top of that, a baggy t-shirt and/or baggy hoodie and/or sports bra and/or slouched posture work wonders for going stealth

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      no no most cis people seem to be comically oblivious, especially if you’re boymoding

      Yeah…you’re right 😆

      Omg, the slouching! I totally get that 😭
      I even do it sometimes…

      When I was about 4 months into HRT, I was planning to go outside one day, and I stupidly wore just a thin shirt. I decided to hide my boobs by slouching…
      Buuut, once I got to the entrance (I live in an apartment building), there was a man waiting at the door outside. I decided to open it for him and hold it open…so I was standing beside the door, holding it, spine straight and shoulders back while he passed me.
      The moment he got inside, he just paused for a second and looked at my chest with such a funny expression of utter confusion, his face was basically saying:
      “Boobs? Here?? WHAT?
      He didn’t say anything out loud, but his body language and facial expression were clear as day 🤣. I just watched his brain completely stop for a moment. I found it really funny 😂

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      Depends on how big your boobs are. Mine grew pretty big pretty fast and I started malefailing like 2 months in so I just gave up trying to boymode and I don’t think I even pass particularly well, but maybe that’s just the dysphoria demons.

      (My client double posted this somehow?? The other should be deleted now)

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        2 months in??? Girl what, i only started malefailing 8 months in and pass for myself only by now

        though tbf i started hrt at 27 (practically dead) and only since a month or two am i finally getting good estrogen levels (580 pmol/L and T sufficently suppressed). And even then I don’t have much boobs or hips :(

        i got some moderate ass, that at least…

        what did you do to malefail this hard

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          I started at 20 and I had breast buds like 5 days in. About 3 to 4 months in I had D cups and I now have DDD cups. I come from a family of large chested women so I suppose I inherited those genes.

          I first had my hormones tested 3 months in and my doctor told me my e was higher and my t was lower than he expected and based on some other things I kinda wonder if I might have klinefelter’s or something.

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            what the fuck

            like my family also has large chested gals (except for cousins)

            but even then waow, i’m only at 85C 1.5 years in (started at 75B -1 mo pre hrt)

            what are your e and t levels if i may ask? girl im so jealous

            about the client doublepost: yeah i have had that too, or sometimes uplemmy’s don’t get counted. maybe a bork with the instance?

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              My t pretty quickly went down to 5 ng/dL and since my orchi it’s been staying at 8 ng/dL. At three months I was at 90 pg/mL (330 pmol/L) on 2mg of e. I currently take 6mg total throughout the day and my e usually sits around 130 pg/mL (477 pmol/L) but after my orchi it jumped up to 243 pg/mL (892 pmol/L).

              For some reason though my recent test from last week is showing 108 pg/mL which is the lowest I’ve seen in several years. Idk why, maybe stress or maybe I didn’t let it dissolve long enough that time?

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                477 is a good level, yeah, 892 is great as well.

                Non-pregnant cis levels are about 220 pmol/L (follicular, lowest) to 1100 (ovulation, highest), most stable is around the 400-800 level.

                (If you’re curious: pregnant E levels are at their highest in the third trimester, reaching 10,000-17,000 pg/mL!)

                My estrogen was very low when I started with spray. Spray was super nice feeling wise but I def don’t recommend it for effectiveness. Never got above 175 pmol/L. I even somehow got lower than pre-HRT at some point despite me upping my doses.

                Now that I’m on tablets and anti-androgens, I get a much better 482 pmol/L. I initially got two pills (2mg each) but decided to switch myself to three because that’s much more effective. Worked like a charm. No more feelings of sweating.

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        probably depends a lot on the person tbh, but yeah any flavor of queer person is a lot more likely to notice and register anything outside the cishet binary

        that said in this particular case it wouldn’t surprise me if the hookup already noticed something was up, asking if someone’s on HRT with a smirk is probably not most people’s immediate reaction to realizing that the “guy” they were hooking up with has boobs

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          depends on how fat the guy/“guy” is TBH

          Somewhat feminine gay guys are a dime a dozen, I wouldn’t give it a second thought unless they’re thin and growing boobs …

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    It also depends how they dress. I met a girl in college who was basically freshly out and transitioning. A few years later we were studying in the hall outside a class and she took her hoodie off for the first time ever and I’m like YO WHEN DID THOSE GET THERE.

    But I could also be oblivious too 😂