FemboyStalin [she/her,any]

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Cake day: July 29th, 2020

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  • I agree with the sentiment in here of don’t worry about labels too much. Just try out different stuff and play with it until you find what fits for you.

    Personally, I’m a 35 year old trans woman. When I was growing up trans women were only the butt of jokes in shows and movies. I didn’t think people actually were trans so I wrote off a lot of my obvious feelings as “everyone feels this.” I had a tough time identifying it because as I aged, masculinity didn’t feel right but I’m autistic so nothing ever really felt right.

    It didn’t all click for me until I was watching a trans youtuber’s coming out video. I can’t find the transcript for it, but the line that just SHOOK me was something along the lines of “I looked in the mirror and I saw myself aging into an old man and I was terrified”. I had those feelings before and then the rest of her experience really clicked into place for me and all the egg-y shit I had felt and thought really came into focus. It took a while to actually publicly transition, but in the meantime I would dress in feminine clothes at home to try and find my style. And expressing my gender more just resonated deeply with me and I ended up having to publicly transition.

    As an aside, I think the book Whipping Girl really helped me understand my gender better, but that might just be because the author’s experiences lined up with mine really well, my cis wife says it really helped with understanding her gender too.






  • My mom visited me from out of town this weekend. She’s been mostly supportive but also really boomer about everything up until now, but recently she has been talking to people who know trans people and reading books to understand me better. I have never felt so seen and so understood by my mom. We talked the harm we’ve both done to each other candidly, and she accepted responsibility as the parent for all of it.

    Before this, i was sure that she’d never “get” it and that our relationship was always going to be at arms length but she switched it up on me. And now our relationship is going to be difficult again but it’s a very different difficult and I’m really excited for it.