You don’t have to repeat hundred times Monero is used by criminals, and many of us glad for Monero used by criminals.
Before explaining to me “why criminals are bad!!!”: Criminality ≠ morality
end to end encrypted between Facebook and you.
you don’t trade off your security, instead you increase it.
for Bitcoin you can increase your privacy with various tools like coinjoin and lightning network with convenience tradeoff
or you just use Monero.
If you have questions feel free to ask in Monero@monero.town
You should check privacy coin Monero.
Matrix and XMPP is pretty much popular in XMR community
And often discord and telegram channels are bridged with other platforms.
I don’t see reason to publicly make financial transactions. So no, if possible i would like to spend Monero for my grocery shopping.