Yeah English is not a clear, direct language.

When English speakers say someone gets defensive, it usually doesn’t refer to literally the act of mounting a defense, without any moral connotation.

Instead, they usually refer to someone telling on themselves, by mounting a defense where there was no attack intended on them.

Like that recent trump interview, where pedophiles got mentioned, and he immediately “got defensive”, screaming that he’s not a pedophile, even though nobody made that statement about him in that interview.

Then you are excusing everybody who is evil.

Even your tobacco executives don’t want to hurt people as a goal in itself. They just want to make money, and are willing to hurt others for their own benefit.

That’s just what good and evil are, though?

Like, Good is you’re willing to sacrifice some of you’re for the benefits of others, Evil is you’re willing to sacrifice some of others’ for benefits of yourself?

Evil people only don’t think of themselves as evil because they have internalized that “evil” is a bad thing. But that what makes you evil, they often even openly admit to.

I don’t need excuses

I think what’s missing is the request to be more special than others.

There are aquarium groups, but I’ve never seen them comment that you should shut up if you don’t own an aquarium. There is a “dull men” group, and I never saw them trying to forbid someone to speak in their room if they are too interesting or too female.

If you don’t want out-group people to participate, your solution is not a platform that allows everybody to participate, and then scold people if they do. It just makes it seem like it’s a deliberate setup to be able to tell people “You made a mistake. You have the wrong gender” - and if not that, they at least demand special treatment among the equals on Lemmy, also not a character trait that people appreciate.

Maybe Arbee’s? Taco Beell? Starbeeucks?

It’s showing more centimeters than inches

I assume you’re calling the police or a lawyer on me for bringing attention to the fact that the song is 42 years old?

I am a little sorry

If there are young people interested in gardening: That title is a reference (direct quote, actually) to the Ghost Busters theme song.

“Good thing there weren’t dozens.” You will NOT realize that you are engaging in the very pedantry you judged just one comment ago, will you?

“this many days” If 1 is many to you, you have to realize that you got so, so many criticisms for your communication.

“I processed the criticism and determined that I’m okay with the idea that some people can’t figure out […]” In meme format, “No, it must be the children who are wrong”. There’s nothing inconsequential about multiple people giving you the very same feedback.

“Nothing of value is on the line here” - like I said, it’s about your future (communication is also important in social life, love life, career, etc), so I wouldn’t say nothing. If you like to make these challenges, people have even given you some valuable feedback how to fix the bugs, but if you decide not to, meh; there’s enough content on the internet.

I was not insulting your ego, but the part about living in with narcissist fits. Because then you’re used to everything slightly negative being an attack that you have to defend yourself against, where you can’t lose even an inch of ground. And by protecting everything that is part of yourself like that, you deny yourself improvement. Because improvement is by definition change. If you are unwilling to change, it means you are unwilling to improve, and that is your personal decision alone to make.

Take this and improve yourself with it, or not - but let me be clear that a further defense is not gonna add any value. It’s like with a poster, or a joke; even if you explained it well somewhere else, it doesn’t make the original thing better.

Wrong!

If dozens of people tell you you’re doing it wrong, then it’s time to take a critical look at your actions, instead of just accusing everybody else of doing it wrong.

Not being able to process criticism without immediately getting defensive will make your life more difficult than it needs to be.

Then again, it is a skill that some people simply do not have. You might be literally unable to “defeat the ego” and have absolutely no doubt about your actions, even after so many people gave you feedback, people like that exist.

It’s usually off to the left. Even in this screenshot it’s between G, H and B, which is to the left in the letter part alone, even if not taking into account the numpad.

The most centered on the keyboard in front of me would be between K, M and comma.

No, the problem is definitely with your communication.

All this time, you had the rule that you have to use barley. But instead of communicating that, you only wrote that you HAVE barley.

Having something doesn’t mean that you are required to use it. I have rice, it doesn’t mean I have to use it in my next meal.

If somebody makes a steak from the pantry without barley, they have not followed your hidden intention, but they have followed your instructions.

So… it just seemed like your challenge was “tell me a food you like” in an unnecessary roundabout way.

Ich bin mir sicher, dass es für einen Mann ohne Penis auch ziemlich schwierig ist, auf Emma einen Ständer zu kriegen

Aside from purely theoretical, philosophical interest (suuuure), it doesn’t really matter, does it?

“Ah yes, now that you showed us the opinion of these online strangers on your phone, we will be ok angering your father - the man who famously hires ex-legionnaires for protection of his family - for a little hanky panky.”

But that’s really sad, if you think about it.

“Generally in the USA, it’s considered suspicious.”

That means generally, Americans are unaware of these father-child activities.

That means generally, Americans didn’t have a good father.

Now, a lot of people would intuitively jump to “Nah my dad was ok” - but if this isn’t normal behaviour for you, then you’re just unaware of how bad your whole frame of reference is. That is a tough pill to swallow, though.

“Let people enjoy things” is a thought terminating clichee, though.

Not really different than “I didn’t order a yappuccino”.

It’s denying any criticism, and with that mindset you get flat earthers, vaccine deniers, and trump voters.

In other words: “Let people criticize things”.

Nobody is denying anyone a counter argument, but “let other people do what they want” is not a valid one.

I don’t care about this show, just fed up with it becoming the standard to validate any behavior with those thought stoppers.

It certainly looks like lynching; it’s giving USA

Yeah it’s not like it’s 14 years old or something like that!

I think you have missed the mark with this. It doesn’t make sense logically, and seems more like an emotional (understandably so) response.