I love people who love things I do as well. A couple examples from recent memory: I love black metal and I was wearing a hoodie from an obscure band and this guy recognized the logo. We had a long talk about music and that was definitely a huge turn on. I also really love when people geek out about stuff, and I met a guy who’s a mechanical engineer and he was happy to talk about his job and all the things that go along with it.
I guess I’m just describing having a personality.
My ex/fwb came to visit again. I was really submissive, and he did some CBT on me before we went out for the evening with some friends. We were on the smokers patio at the bar alone and he made me his ashtray which is something I’ve always wanted to try. Turns out I really like it.
Once we got back to his hotel, he teased me relentlessly. We have a fun switch dynamic, so I used his trigger to make him go into subspace and gave him 5 forced orgasms until he was a begging mess.
The next morning I made him cum once more and I didn’t cum at all by choice. Great time.