The detrans thing. One percent or less of people detrans because of genuine regret, and that sexual abuse thing is a gatekeepy thing that has no verifiable source tmk.

Edit: And I think it’s one percent or less of the people who detransition do so because of regret, which is to say the actual rate is quite low.

https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/biochemical-dysphoria

It doesn’t really matter if the explanation is true, but the experience is something that many of us go through. The experience that we feel like empty zombies and that after HRT we finally feel real.

At some point after starting HRT I had days where I started liking what I saw in the mirror (and seeing a woman) despite knowing that I objectively do not pass or anything like that. It’s not constant for me, but I have more good days than bad days. Liking what you see is partially gonna be a mental thing, and that’s something HRT might do for you or it might need therapy or something else.

I’m not gonna promise that these things will happen for you, but I hope they will.

Hope you will feel better soon 🫂

Hi!

Reading this thing might provide you with some pointers: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/

Hopefully parents and transmasc people can provide you with more specific pointers, but more generally I can tell you that peoples needs and goals can vary a lot, so this is one of those things were having an open mind and good communication is key.

It already sounds like you’re supporting your son. One of the first things I would recommend is sitting down and asking him if “he/him” is something he wants to go with and if he is your “son” or something else.

I would also look into HRT in whatever country you live in. It might not be something he wants, but if he does please be aware that many of us absolutely need HRT to make our lives worth living. It’s one of those things that varies from person to person. You don’t need to have this conversation right away, but many of us suffer from constant depression since the start of puberty, and HRT is how this depression is treated. In many places minors are only offered hormone blockers to start with, and then full on hormone replacement therapy is only available later. It depends on country and region. Full HRT is ideal, but we usually take what we can get.

The effects of HRT are covered in the link I shared earlier under androgenic puberty. You should probably sit down and go over the effects with your kid or ask if they know already. I was not aware that HRT was an option when I was 15 and my life would have been drastically better today had I known.

In some countries therapists might try to talk your son out of being trans or transitioning in some version of what is known as “conversion therapy”. This doesn’t work and is generally considered a form of torture and is being banned in more and more countries, please make sure this isn’t happening or won’t happen to your child. It won’t work and will just make him suppress himself and feel more shame and self-hatred.

If you live somewhere hostile to trans people or somewhere where our situation is rapidly getting worse then I recommend trying to move somewhere better if this is within your means. I know this isn’t always as simple as we would like it to be. If you live within the united states I would recommend leaving if you have the option, or at least look into moving to a progressive state. Trans people and our allies are increasingly worried that the US is gearing up towards genocide against us, which might sound very dramatic, but this unfortunately is reality. The government is continually not just taking away rights, protections, and treatment options for trans people, but is also putting in a lot of effort to dehumanize us.

I hope this is useful and not just something that makes you anxious :P It’s a lot. Be sure to take care of yourself as well. There are support groups out there for parents and partners of trans people, especially online. Regular therapy might be useful too if available to you.

I should probably reinforce that the most important thing you can do is be supportive and to talk to your son. He knows better than me and any expert what he needs and wants. Be careful when googling stuff, there’s lots of misinformation online so please make sure any link you look at is actually pro trans and not something aimed at the ignorant to fearmonger and mislead.

Here are some more good links:

• https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/
• https://trans-resources.info/
• https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/115zI3opsYcJAiygoiH0d0MIghMRz3WMcivXeDQ9wbkQ/htmlview (sources for packers and binders)
• https://www.equaldex.com/ (simple and unnuanced overview of queer rights across the world. you can look up a country for a more detailed breakdown)

Best of luck to you and your son!

Thinking about it I’ve had some spots I’ve noticed at times but I can’t see any right now

Do you inject into the same area each time? Perhaps it’s scar tissue

Helloo Reilyh <3

Because of how this meme is usually used it just makes it seem like you’re saying outlawing being transgender is good for kids

2019

uh oh

😳

OH. I stared at it for quite a while thinking this was someone who made a purposefully bad burger

Here you go! Guess which one is which!

hi thotdragon!

Hello everyone!

I’ll be doing my best to increase our response time to bigotry and spam! I’m not sure what else to write here that hasn’t been said, but uh I have two cute cats named Åsa and Akaya, a mother and daughter. They like stealing my chair

I first started looking for alternative communities after reddit killed api stuff, and some bad experiences on discord with moderators who were convinced they were allies yet allowed transphobia and harassment they considered harmless. I was also looking for a place to try and break out of my shell and talk to people like myself and lemmy and matrix has been great for me in that regard <3 I’ve made lots of friends here and I hope to help keep this place safe and comfortable for everyone

Anyways, hello again!

For clarification they only mean the women that are cis

Hey, that language is a bit misogynistic. Nothing cowardly about pussies

You will not be fertile on HRT* and possibly irreversibly infertile after a while on it. Storing sperm is the way to go, but I don’t know much about the subject. Where I am I can have my sperm stored by talking to my GP, but it sounds like you are somewhere where this has to be handled privately?

*don’t assume you are fully infertile. this can lead to accidental pregnancies. you will absolutely be less fertile and likely not fertile at all, but I won’t guarantee it

Name
Biological Reality

Mhm yeah the biological name that gestated with me in the womb. That makes sense

Absolutely tragic 😔

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