I’ve never been able to talk myself out of anything. Like I will have the entire thought process and think maybe it’s a bad idea, and I shouldn’t speak my mind, but I really want to so I do. It has not yielded good results

Omg every suggestion is so different! SK to Thailand for me solo would be great. Only thing is I think if I go to Thailand I’d want to do one of those women-only guided trips where they take you to pickleball and snorkeling and the night market, and idk if one week would be enough to join one of those. I’m really good at traveling on my own though so maybe I don’t need it.
I’m probably not gonna get the plastic surgery but taking this heavily into account. I love Thai people and want to go so bad I just figure I can go in cooler weather. It’s more about what she wants for that first week than me tho and she might be more comfortable in Asia than a different region so I’ll have to find out but this is super helpful

I’ll do my part!

I feel like a jerk for not considering the less mentioned European countries. I hate crowds so this sounds perfect. I just want to vibe and see cool shit and get in the water and it might be perfect.
I’d love to hear your specific recs!

I’ve seen videos of Croatian tourist activities like swimming holes and ziplines and I think that may be the one. And plenty of beautiful city to cover week one. Was thinking about spending one night in Zagreb–>Split–>Dubrovnik, send the madre on her way, and then just wing it by myself once I’ve gotten the lay of the land.
If you have more specific recs I’m all ears

Genuinely laughed out loud

I want to so bad! Are you from there

I do like transit hubs but yeah. I think if we do Costa Rica we’ll pick just one city because she’s older and I don’t want to drive much, and due to the length of her leg of the trip renting a car will be a pain. I certainly don’t want her to drive lol.
I was thinking 3 days nice resort, 3 days sleeping rough-ish, so then she has time for the flights and then the rest will be just me and I can do anything by myself

Which aren’t environmentally devastating?

That’s super helpful bc I noticed that not a lot of people are on this one. Will cross-post <3

Oh yeah I bet I would do the Philippines great and would get a ton of great memories. Only problem is it has to be June because of work and I go bright red and start panting the second it’s hot

Bless you

You need a massage babe

Kinda wanted to just have some people weigh in instead of using a tool. I can research it myself but I like it when people share anecdotes. I got lost though

You delete it.

Yup. I should be executed in the town square

Yeah I fucked up. Promise it wasn’t on purpose I’m just sleep-deprived

Omfg I’m so embarrassed

Thought it was where you can yap about yourself, is it not?

When I was in med school assisting in circumcisions (didn’t want to, had to) the doctor said that the baby screaming was not proof that he felt pain, and demonstrated it by poking the baby and showing that he cried as a response to that. Absolutely nonsensical for a supposedly intelligent person to say. The cry was vastly different from the circ and a poke. It was an excuse not to use local anesthesia or justify the whole process I guess.
The funny part is that that when I was on OBGYN at a different hospital, and when I was at my home hospital on peds, the pediatricians did circumcisions. So I got twice as many circumcisions as my classmates. Some of them could have theoretically attended zero if their schedule was flipped and they were on peds at the OBGYN circumcising hospital and on OBGYN at the peds circumcising hospital. I can’t understand why someone would claim someone else doesn’t feel pain. I wish we had a machine that could make someone feel for a second what you feel so that it stops being minimized or disbelieved.