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Cake day: July 18th, 2023

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  • I have similar reasons for non-transitioning: generally real-life considerations versus internal. I’m also about to undertake a career change, have low social support, am not the most socially fluent, am concerned about growing transphobia, don’t want the daily hassles (e.g., public change rooms).

    I feel pretty confident that non-transition is the best choice for me right now, but it isn’t by a huge margin - it’s like a 60-40 vote versus 90-10 one.

    My strategy for now is to try to to thread the needle between embracing feminine things that make me good and being able to pass as cis-enough. I’m fortunate to have a full head of hair, which I’ve grown out, and I’m working on a nice neat top bun. I love having long hair (most of the time :P)







  • Thanks :) I am sorry to hear about the discouraging social factors in your town too. I love the anecdote about the vaguely emo-looking guy.

    That was a bad choice of words by me. Symbolizes would have been more appropriate than advertises, because no can tell I’m caged if I have pants on. I have this mental preoccupation with what if an orgy spontaneously happened lol or someone saw my cage - then it’d be truly advertised. The potential for that exists, which I find really hot. Like if I’m changing in a men’s change room at the gym ;)

    I don’t have much knowledge about conveying bottomless - I need to learn more about that :P




  • Personally, I don’t fetishize butt plugs per se; I see them as tools to allow repetitive anal penetration from partner sex or masturbation to occur sooner and with less ‘warming up’. And that’s pretty cool, because I wish I had a self-lubricating pussy. I own 1 butt plug.

    One of my best sissy memories was going going to a sex shop in the local gay village as a college freshman, buying a butt plug, putting it in inside a nearby cafe washroom, and then getting stoned and walking around the gay village with it in.

    I’ve had female partners who were able to quickly have vaginal sex with me in public. If I had a ‘butt plug goal’ (lol, things said only on c/sissy :) it’d be to be able to do that myself with a butt plug. That is, I’m out with my man, we’re feeling frisky, I’m already plugged, I take it out (and am hopefully quite lubed up), and I get a quick shag on a beach or something ;)


  • I appreciate your point. I wouldn’t have thought that “small boobs” is offensive or insensitive in the context of calling someone hot, but I realize I’m being swayed by what I find attractive versus by what others might feel when they hear the term, especially those with boobs. I think for me the lesson here is to err on the side of using safe and affirming language when describing culturally sensitive things. The things we learn on lemmynsfw :)



  • I hope it works! Or, if it doesn’t, it gets reverted. I’ve noticed a downtick in content creation (especially non redgif content) from a couple months ago. Whatever will encourage more people posting content is probably best for this instance to grow. I think the useful feedback aspect of downvoting is really attractive, especially on a nsfw (ie porn) instance. The instance is so small that it’s easy to skim all posts uploaded in 24 hours in less than 10 minutes, so the idea that downvoting limits visibility of (relatively) small communities doesn’t seem too relevant to this instance to me. Thanks for all your great work!