Grow your hair out and (if you’re looking for things to buy) bleach/dye it.

University of Oklahoma has an organization and there are probably more at other colleges in the state. I can attest to the difficulties of online dating. There may also be LGBTQ resources in your town or nearby, like a social gathering at a community center or something.

Replace him with a suitable substitute on some dating platform. If you’re in a major city, that shouldn’t be difficult. If you’re out in the sticks like I am, alcohol may be your only friend. Maybe get a job or attend a college in a place where gays can be gay.

To be the webcam on that netbook <3

I’ve been in femboy mode for the past 6 months, and it has not delivered results. Unless you count some negativity from an old lady on a bus. I’ve only been using nail polish for a couple weeks, and I did get a positive comment on that. Unfortunately, I’m tall and have stress lines on my face, so it’s hard for me to feel cute, and I get into a negative feedback loop because of that.

so that everyone knows i’m still cis tho

I’m still figuring out what a femboy is, and to me it seems to be just a new term for a male or enby-identifying transvestite or girly boy. In my experience as a half-slavic 31-year-old in the rural northwest, when I crossdress nobody knows my gender but everyone assumes I have a dick. I could be trans, it could be performance art, it could be laundry day. (Why the short shorts and mascara? Must be a fag.) All queers are the same to folks outside of this community, so to them your choice of gender matters less than how good you look overall.

I shave with specific brands of disposable twin-blade safety razor (Dorco, BIC, whatever gets you closest without cutting the skin) and shave gel. Gel seems to work a lot better than Barbasol cream.

You can also use hair removal cream for touch-ups, though my facial hair is unfortunately a lot tougher than hair removal cream alone can handle.

I hear that epilators (basically like an electric razor that goes a little deeper) work well, at least for body hair, though I haven’t tried one yet.

I hear that an epigenetic medication (not HRT) reduces the thickness of non-scalp hair to the genetic level you would have without androgens, but other factors like a history of shaving and your specific ethnicity may reduce the de-hairing effect. Many cis women shave.

Arr, I’ve been cruising for booty and I see you got your sealegs! Cum aboard and I’ll make you my first mate! 🏴‍☠️💦

Aww you’re such a cutie I would woof you so hard

Not everyone with breasts is a woman, or queer for that matter. There are plenty of bigger guys with moobs. I’d like to know if those daddies get off on nipple/breast play as much as I do.

Someone please fuck me in this mormon baptist meth factory town

Sounds like I should bark woof at some of them, since I guess it isn’t rude.

You travel a lot. My last 6 months have been back-to-back classes and I don’t see that changing in the near future. I’m not familiar with deep clean techniques, but you reminded me I should probably buy some wet naps. 😸

I’m now on Recon and Scruff. No hits so far, but I do have a few positive things to say about the latter: you can sideload the app, the UI is slick (but at times confusing; still haven’t used the “woof” feature afaik), the boys on there are slightly more attractive than the Recon users, there are more of them, and there are trans people. One thing I noticed is that at least half of the guys here really like their facial hair. I know there’s supposedly a gene that triggers that attraction, but I can’t personally relate.

You don’t need to patronizingly explain what a munch is. I’ve observed these people over several months, and 4/5 of them are nowhere near hardcore kinksters. I don’t know where you’re from, but around here the general culture is already very soft and removed from the scene. These people want to feel no pain.

1. Yes, there is a fairly well-known fetish club in the city. It would have to be a weekend trip. I’d probably find mostly straight people though. I met a previous (female) partner in a similar way. It was a great relationship, but there was always this feeling that I was more hardcore into kink stuff than she was. I just can’t dial it down for those whose interest is more moderate.
2. Femboy psychology is a whole ball of yarn. Do I really want to date anyone who presents effeminate? I’m into it to an extent, but not when it compromises the hard sadomasochism. If those things are opposed to each other (as you say they’re introverts) then I might be an exception. I wish people wouldn’t be such pussies.

Ideally? A dominant femboy. More broadly, I’m looking for someone about 25-35 who appreciates BDSM dynamics, looks healthy, and doesn’t mind shaving.

Neither have I! Have you had a good experience on the other services?

An hour by train gets me to a major city. However, the gay scene there is just a slightly scaled-up version of the backwoodsy culture I’m already in. Most guys are actual baby boomers. Most will say “Oh, you live in [town]? Why?” Fucking income levels, bro.

I feel you on the local kink scene. The couples here aren’t even looking for thirds. People go to these meetings just to play pool, and they act like the sex drive has been sucked out of them by some kind of alien parasite. Tops act like bottoms, bottoms act like tops, everyone either has kids or is some kind of little. The only hard tops are bears. 🐻