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  • lugal@sopuli.xyztoMemes@lemmy.mlcouldn't be me
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    3 hours ago

    I still don’t get it. Are there dating apps exclusively for cis people? Do non-cis people write into their bio that they are cis? Is this a thing that people explicitly say they are cis while they are not?
    Or is the problem that cis normative people assume, the other is cis for no reason other than it’s the supposed default?




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    5 hours ago

    The point of a feed is to literally show what you want.

    So the algorithm behind the feed is to blame when you get bad suggestions. Btw: showing only perfect matches makes people spend less time on the app and therefore they mix in bad suggestions deliberately. Blame the profit motive.

    If someone wants to fake their age, gender, or wealth for a chance of sliding into someone else’s DMs, just to get caught and retaliate by projecting it back on them as the bad person, then that person is a literal psychopath and I hope it doesn’t escalate.

    While this is true, I don’t see the relevance.











  • Maybe they knew all along, locked the monster into the room a long time ago, and when they got a son they thought “let’s give him the empty room” because at that point they totally forgot about the monster because they internalized dehumanizing it and thought it was dead already. When they realized what they did, they just kept going, sure that the monster wouldn’t complain because it doesn’t have a voice. At least not one that would be heard.

    But it came differently. The monster got to the point where it found a way to make itself heard and it did. The boy can’t ignore it anymore and neither can his parents. When the boy was younger, they could talk it away as childish but now they can’t ignor it anymore. The monster doesn’t wait for a white savior, it helps itself.

    It’s either that or I’m totally overanalyzing. Time will show that I’m right. I’m on the right side of history.