We need to make our cities and towns more family friendly. This is called the “missing middle” in housing, and it’s why in north america all we see are either large condo towers or single family homes, which also drives our urban sprawl problems. Which exacerbate out dependency on cars.

Almost all new large towers/buildings in north america prioritize bachelor’s units 1 and 2 bedroom units. Trying to find a well priced 3 or 4 bedroom in a “lively” downtown center, close to transit and work, with plenty of schooling in the area is almost impossible. It’s also a factor in why cities became so empty during the pandemic, ie. Not to many families living permanently in cities.

Here’s a good article that also talks about the same issue with some different apparment layouts, and why developers don’t provide adequate family units.

https://www.centerforbuilding.org/blog/we-we-cant-build-family-sized-apartments-in-north-america

This together with zoning requirements in north america is pushing most cities and developers to only cater towards large towers or single family housing.

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    Large living spaces are bad, they take up extra space and cost more to heat and maintain.

    40m^2 is plenty of space for two people to live together comfortably, provided it’s well laid out.

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      The problem is that everything is large. Couches, appliances, wardrobes. Microwaves and dishwashers and washer and dryer and then how am I supposed to have a table big enough to do a puzzle on? What if I want to do a puzzle and my partner wants to take out the sewing machine and start a project at the same time?

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        I had a 45m^2 single bedroom apartment which had a lot of wasted space (like, there was room in the bathroom for another bath, amongst other things), we had a full compliment of white goods, and there was enough space that when my then girlfriend/* could rebuild a motorbike in the living room without having to move any furniture or even park either of the bicycles outside.

        /* Now wife, for obvious reasons.

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        I think there is a cultural tendency for larger spaces, but ultimately these lead to a lot of unused room or arbitrary stuff collecting. People can have a very fulfilling life on much less junk than they assume. The sheer volume of storage units in the US should tell us all we need to know about our lives of excess.

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      40m^2 is plenty of space for two people to live together comfortably

      Not if you have any hobbies.

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        As mentioned in another comment, when my other half was rebuilding a motorbike in the living room of our old flat, I didn’t even have to move any furniture. She would tinker away pulling the engine out while I practiced guitar.

        Are the hobbies that you have things like indoor rock climbing at home?

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          Well I was in a pretty well laid out 590 sq. ft. with my girlfriend, and we had a queen bed, two computer desks, a piano, an L-couch coffee table, entertainment stand, dining table, guitar amp, and kitchen. That and 3 cats and a gecko terrarium.

          So no, I could not bring my motorcycle up into the condo and work on it without moving any furniture. And hobby-wise I ran out of space for my 3D printers and CNC set-up, and she was incredibly cramped with her piano and desk against each other.

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            And how much of that did you actually need? Why have two desks and a dining table when you can put a laptop on the table? Why have an L shaped sofa and not a compact 2 person sofa? Why have a grand piano (I’m assuming since you had a lot of space) rather than a compact electric piano?

            In our first apartment we had a king size bed BTW, the space under it was great for storage and good sleep is important!

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              Our desktops aren’t exactly easy to move onto and off a dining table, and there is no way I’m settling for a laptop. We have an L-couch because we like to host people, and have parties. We have a full length electric keyboard, because that’s what there is space for.

              You sound very condescending by the way, you should lighten up your tone.

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                Ah, ok. You want to consume more, have more stuff, bigger and better and newer and faster.

                Well, good luck with that if that’s what it takes to make you happy.

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                  No, I want a computer powerful enough to actually do my job and laptops don’t cut it.

                  Why are you still being so condescending?

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                    Because the world is on fire, while the richest humans want to consume more. Your replies are typical of that mindset, you could hardly contain your consumerism while living in an area which in much of the world would be considered large and luxurious.

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      Agreed, I want to downsize, to reduce my carbon footprint and declutter/simplify my life. My plan is for an external workshop structure to hold all the things that I work on but don’t require expensive, continuous climate control. That and building a sustainable ecofriendly home with renewable energy, geothermal would be really cool.

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        Yeah, several times when I was younger I had to move house with only what I could fit in my car or what I could carry. It forced me to really think about what possessions actually matter, and feel the benefits of how having less stuff helps free oneself from the consumerist mindset.

        On another note, geothermal energy isn’t feasible for most places, and building from scratch is harder than it looks … the best thing is to repurpose what already exists to your needs and use it in the best way you can. I bought a house that had been abandoned, and it’s gradually coming into shape with improvements like insulation and double glazing … eventually I hope to have heating from a heat pump, but that’s out of my price range for the moment.

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      Why is it that your definition of “plenty” is right and others are wrong? Plenty is however much each individual thinks it is.

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        When most of the world can live in comfort with less space, then it would be good if everyone would. It would save energy, resources, and leave more room for nature.

        Many humans are greedy and want more of everything, including space. Do you think that people who live in mansions do so against their will? Do you think that owning a mansion is good for the planet?

        My definition of plenty can be flexible, and thinking about it we could be happy with less space. I lived in a caravan with an ex-boyfriend for a while which was about 20m^2, and space was not the main factor in wanting to move out.

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          That’s great, and good for you. But, that doesn’t mean that I, or others, “should” emulate you. We should do what’s right for ourselves. We all have limited time on this rock, and I don’t necessarily want to live your life.

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            I never said you should emulate my life, what I said is that taking up less space would be good for the planet … you get limited time on this rock, it’s going to be a lot more limited for your kids if the food chain collapses.

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              There is no point in individuals trying to fix the planet. As long as the large corporations are allowed to operate unchecked, the result is a forgone conclusion. We may as well live the best life we can, in the time we have left.

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                Both are needed, corporations must be held account able and individuals need to make changes to how they live … I don’t believe either will actually happen, but that doesn’t mean that the morality of choices over resource use suddenly get inverted just because of a bad case of nihilism.

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                  The corporation thing MUST happen if anything is to be changed. If that doesn’t happen, individuals are just rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Since the corporations won’t change anything, there’s no point in individual change.

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                    If individuals changed, corporations would be forced to change (or would die) since they would no longer be profitable. It needs to be both at the same time.

                    That doesn’t negate the positive moral implication of making a pleasant comfortable life while consuming less.

                    Business as usual for individuals means business as usual for corporations.

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            @Iamdanno @7of9 Your rights end where someone else’s begin. If your house, yard, or car are so big that they interfere with your community’s ability to provide adequate housing and safe transport for everyone, you are infringing on other people’s rights and imposing excessive costs on society as a whole.

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              It’s not infringement if the city zoning and building offices approve it. If it’s legal, you can fuck right off. You don’t have to like it, but that doesn’t mean you get to dictate your beliefs on anyone else. Your rights end where other’s begin as well.