• @papalonian@lemmy.world
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    If I’m not wrong, NEET = Not in Employment, Education, or Training

    Anon felt bad about being a leech off of society so he slicked his hair back and learned how to ride a skateboard, and is wondering why he still feels like a NEET.

    • @MeDuViNoX@sh.itjust.works
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      Yeah, anon is still technically a NEET. That was my first thought, but then I noticed you forgot to mention the dancing. Maybe anon became a professional dancer and that’s how they make a living now? Somehow, I kinda doubt it though.

    • Tekhne
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      That’s what NEET technically means, but it’s taken on a greater meaning (especially on 4chan) of “person who lives in their parents basement well past the age it’s socially acceptable, has no social skills/is actively antisocial, has poor personal hygiene, and rarely (if ever) leaves the house”.

    • @wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      It’s a skill like anything else. It comes easier to some, harder to others, and it can be improved through repeated effort, exposure, and experience over time.

      Small talk is a good low risk situation that can give you opportunity to practice.

      Also, not living in the same place too long so you don’t build up a reputation of being awkward and oh god they know they all know I’m just a hairless chimp in a human suit why did I think this was a good idea oh shit oh fuck what do I say–

      “I’m doing good, how about you?”

      • @DriftinGrifter@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        let me correct my statement its not that i cant talk to people but my perspective on life makes it hard to relate to people outside my small circle of people from specific subcomunities it always feels like talking to aliens i can pretend to be one no problem but i’ll never be one

    • @RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world
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      Step 1: Be honest about how nervous and awkward you are. It really busts up the pressure and things will get a little easier.

      Also there is an 80% chance that they are just as nervous and awkward.

  • @PenisWenisGenius@lemmynsfw.com
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    You can’t date girls on bumble if you don’t have a job. And once you get a job, they’ll all think you’re a loser unless you have a fancy job. And once you have a fancy job, you’ll find there are more productive things to spend your spare time on.

    • @shasta@lemm.ee
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      71 month ago

      Sounds like a win to me, spending your time on more worthwhile things than online dating.

        • Flax
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          41 month ago

          The apps literally lose money if you get a date and start a relationship in them

        • @exocrinous
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          11 month ago

          Would you define a long distance relationship that’s lasted for multiple years with daily video chats as online dating?

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            That’s not really up to me, but no. I dated my wife for over a year online before we got married, and we’ve been together for a long time now.

            I’m more talking about dating apps and the relatively shallow hookups that come with that.

          • Good god I’m so sick of this fuckin shtick.

            A guy brings up one bad fuckin thing about dating in the modern era and everyone just calls them an incel.

            Honestly at this point it’s just proving their point because guys aren’t even allowed to complain about fucking anything.

            • @Daxtron2
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              One bad thing? Did you read the same comment I did? Making wide sweeping negative generalizations against an entire gender is 100% the incel playbook.

              • @exocrinous
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                11 month ago

                tbh I thought it was satire

                • @Daxtron2
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                  There’s 0 indication of tone through text so its impossible to know if it is or not

  • @RBWells@lemmy.world
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    I don’t mind guys being awkward if they are at ease with it - I know this sounds like a contradiction but it’s not. I have dated guys who were, by the world’s standards, not outgoing or social or great at conversation, but who were clever as fuck, good in bed, and thoughtful, and not so entirely wrapped up in themselves.

    Employment though - my personal experience is that guys (the ones I have known) need to work or they get focused on threats, real or imagined, to the exclusion of all else.