I found this article some days ago and I think it’s really good. It gives a broad overview, answers typical questions and points out typical prejudice about bisexuality. I think it might be really helpful to someone who is just trying to figure themself out. Maybe we could put it in the sidebar?
Yeah that’s pretty good, thanks. It took me a long time to be able to say I’m a bisexual man with a general preference for women.
At first I was afraid that being a little bit queer made me wholly gay (this was a common attitude back then). Later I was worried that I wasn’t queer enough to run with the LGBT kids. Now I’m comfortable being myself with straight or gay people and everything in between and I’ll still proudly say I’m bi even though I’ve been in a hetero marriage for 15 years and no one gives a shit about my sexuality anyway as I’m pushing 50 :D
I feel you. I’m also married to the opposite gender and we’re together since we were teenagers. So I never hand any “trying out”-phase. Even though I knew gender plays no role in my attraction I never felt that I’m allowed to call myself bisexual or queer. It only changed when I’ve joined some LGBTQ±communities as “ally”. Thankfully they were very welcoming and quickly I felt good about calling myself bisexual.
So yay for being married and still bi!
For me, a big part of it has always been just refusing the toxic cultural package you inherit as a hetero male. That’s never been me and it’s never going to be me. And that has little to do with who is or isn’t in my bed on a given day.