• wischi@lemmyrs.org
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      1 year ago

      In also only just downvoted an didn’t leave a comment. Only after reading your answer I wrote this. The problem is (and it’s probably very hard to overcome), is that people often look for validation and getting downvoted doesn’t feels good because it’s the exact opposite of validation.

      But keep in mind that nobody (ok at least me 🤣) downvotes you because I want to hurt your feelings or “to silence” you. Don’t get me wrong but I couldn’t care less. I don’t know you, I don’t know your past, what you do, your mindset, your attitude. All I see is a post I don’t agree with and by downvoting I’m just contributing to a statistic that let’s you and other users know how others roughly think about that post.

      I think we should try not to take downvotes to serious. Unless all your posts are downvoted all the time (which could indicate all sort of things) getting some posts downvoted sometimes is perfectly healthy and normal, so try not to take it too personal because non of those people know you, all the know is what you wrote and it didn’t resonate with them.

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        But keep in mind that nobody (ok at least me 🤣) downvotes you because I want to hurt your feelings or “to silence” you. Don’t get me wrong but I couldn’t care less. I don’t know you, I don’t know your past, what you do, your mindset, your attitude. All I see is a post I don’t agree with and by downvoting I’m just contributing to a statistic that let’s you and other users know how others roughly think about that post.

        (I am not the OP nor the person to whom you wrote the above.)

        I think downvotes are useful, but not as an “I disagree” with your view, but “I disagree” with how you chose to express your view. In my view, we should upvote someone who disagrees agreeably and intelligently.

        In my view, receiving a mass of downvotes SHOULD cause me to pause and think about whether I said something rightly and kindly and on-topic to the matter at hand. A downvote storm shouldn’t bully me into changing my niche position to theirs.

        (upvoted, for the record)

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      I didn’t downvote you because you upset me, and I want you ot of my sight. Blocking, is for that.

      I downvoted you, because that comment was hot take trash.

      Totalitarian? Would you accuse the voters of a winning political party of unethical behaviour?

      What a joke. Democracy must feel so unfair, when you’re losing.

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        I have no dog in this fight at hand, however this quote got me to thinking:

        What a joke. Democracy must feel so unfair, when you’re losing.

        Yeah, you’re right. It highlights the fact that Democracy at the end of the day is just mob rule, where 51% of voters could (in theory) vote to kill, silence, or otherwise deprive the rights of the other 49%.

        As for free speech issues, my thoughts are that driving them underground to fester and grow out of sight is good for “out of sight out of mind,” but in reality it strengthens their hold over their members through their own persecution complex and allows them a platform where their ideals go unchecked and unchallenged until it’s too late, they already believe it with conviction enough to spread it to other sites, which then they get “persecuted” for (in their eyes) and driven right back to the arms of the people who are manipulating them into these positions to begin with who say “see? We told you everyone was against us!”

        Kinda like just letting mold grow in a drippy sink, you can wipe off the outside of the faucet and make it look pretty but the mold is still there in the pipes.