It has been almost 2 years.

We’ve always struggled with sex because her drive is almost nonexistent; which makes me feel insecure and like idk what to do.

It’s basically up to me to initiate sex most of the time since I’m the one that feels like it the most. But I hate that she doesn’t reciprocate the feeling. We have had plenty of conversations where she says she notices that I want sex and wants me to follow through; but I’ve told her that I want her to put in some effort as well; specially if she knows I want to.

She does try to initiate sometimes but in a shy or childish way (like blowing air in my face if we’re facing each other) which puts me off. I’ve told her she can just get on top of me and starting kissing me or grab my penis and play with it. But the message gets lost and she does her versions of seduction.

On a recent conversation she confessed that she noticed I was more confident and forward with sex in the beginning and slowly became hesitant probably due to the way she reacts towards sex (which is true). And that she hoped I would make her more comfortable with her sexuality. I don’t think I can help her become more comfortable with HER sexual side; specially as a man, so it makes me wonder if things will ever get better.

For context: She does have issues with sex I think stemming from her first time. It wasn’t a great experience; and I think that’s what led to her going on a self imposed celibacy through college (she only had sex probably 2-3 times).

Is there anything I can do? I’ve been patient for 2 years but the more time passes the more I feel like she wants me to fix our sex life for the both of us and we’re both getting tired of it.