• @idegenszavak@sh.itjust.works
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    867 months ago

    I recommend drugs:

    • ✓ Cheap compared to other hobbies like travel or gambling or having a family
    • ✓ Meet new real and not so real friends
    • ✓ Can make your suffering aka life shorter
    • Che Banana
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      Sceintific cookies Butter:  Grind about 1-2g of active ingredient  Heat oven (non convection) to 118c (245f), use baking tray & parchment paper to bake 30-40 min, stirring every 15 min or so to bake evenly, remove and cool.  Prep rice cooke to “keep warm” mode  Empty the water, add butter & prepared active ingredients  Heat for 2.5hrs  Check every 20 min or so to make sure it doesn’t go above 93c (200f)  Cool  NOTE weigh butter before adding to recipe, as there may be some water loss during heating-just top up with regular butter/margerine 36 60g cookies 395 g brown sugar 225 g granulated sugar 25 g vanilla sugar 350 g Veg margarine or butter 25 g oil 59 ml water 0 pinch salt mixer #2 speed cream together about 5 minutes 900 g ap flour 3 1/2 g baking soda 20 g baking powder combine dry ingredients add slowly to mixer 150 g chopped chocolate (vegan) combine to mix bake 60g scoop 200C for 7 minutes SCIENCE!

        • @givesomefucks@lemmy.world
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          237 months ago

          I think blackpeopletwitter came first on reddit and was a pretty big sub because if minorities don’t have their own space, their voices aren’t heard amongst the majority.

          Or maybe whitepeopletwitter came first

          That’s the shitty part of everyone just duplicating reddit subs. If Lemmy does take off, a decade from now someone is going to have to explain shit from 20 years ago from another website.

          It would have been better off to grow organically on its own. But kids wanted to be mods to have all the power but not do any work. So every sub on reddit exists on a every big lemmy instance

          • @glimse@lemmy.world
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            BPT was first.

            I agree with everything you said. The majority of communities on Lemmy are just reddit clones without any “heart” to them. Same names, completely different rules on what can be posted. They’re husks of subreddits filled with the most generic shit

            • @FrostyTrichs@lemmy.world
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              The majority of communities on Lemmy are just reddit clones without any “heart” to them.

              This would imply that reddit still has heart, which it doesn’t.

              Lemmy is still finding itself. For the majority here, leaving reddit was the whole thing that brought them here. It’s going to take time to form its own identity that’s less of a shadow of reddit and more of a demonstration of the new communities.

              • @glimse@lemmy.world
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                What I’m saying is that Lemmy communities feel like they took the empty shell of a Porsche and shoved whatever engine they could find in it but still call it a Porsche.

                Reddit may be soulless but the original subs weren’t. The names got copied over without any thought and they’re run like the wild west

      • @glimse@lemmy.world
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        67 months ago

        The original sub was made because r/blackpeopletwitter only allowed tweets from black people. There is no reason for it to exist here especially with the waning popularity of Twitter…but lemmy full of useless copycat communities.

    • @31337@sh.itjust.works
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      I’m going to guess it’s because most people have much more stressful lives and are too busy to be be bored (busy trying to figure out how to provide for themselves and their family, trying to get out of debt, etc). Also, most people do not have office jobs where they can drink coffee at a desk and listen to podcasts all day; most people have manual labor jobs and office workers are considered to be higher up the socio-economic ladder. So, the post is here to make fun of privileged white people who have a good life complaining about mundane things.

      Yes, it’s mildly racist. There are, of course, many white people with low-paying jobs, and many POC with good paying jobs; but there is some statistical truth in the medians.

    • @BaldManGoomba@lemmy.world
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      Most other races this is a no duh dipshit moment. For the white race there is a larger demographic that think they don’t have to work.

  • @Fluid@aussie.zone
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    347 months ago

    Life is absurd. Take drugs, make mistakes, explore, learn, love, create. Make peace with the absurd. Sit in it for a while and see what happens. The dude abides…

  • @Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
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    307 months ago

    “Bored” pisses me off. There’s too much to do, to learn, to experience to be fucking bored. I mean, unless you’re stuck at work or some shit.

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          147 months ago

          Speaking from experience depression has the power to render everything you used to find passion and joy in utterly unenjoyable. It sucks, and you get bored, and then you feel bad that you are bored and not doing the things you are supposed to enjoy. Have some empathy for those of us struggling :)

          • @Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
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            OK. You are talking about depression. I am talking about boredom. They are not the same thing, though one may be symptomatic of the other. If you think your boredom is a result of depression, I suggest you seek help somewhere that’s not an online forum.

    • @XTornado@lemmy.ml
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      I am bored and I have plenty to do, the bigger selection makes it impossible to choose and then I do not choose.

    • @Donkter@lemmy.world
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      That’s the point isn’t it? If we’re unlucky much of our life might revolve around going to work and doing maintenance around going to work and sleeping. Now I agree that anyone in that position probably has a choice they could make to free up their life but it’s quite a feat of will power to do it. There are also people in this cycle that have started families and don’t have much freedom.

      • @Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
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        -87 months ago

        There are also people in this cycle that have started families and don’t have much freedom.

        I’d argue that people with families have even fewer excuses for being bored.

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      There is but all of it takes MONEY!! and TIME!!!. And i don’t have enough alcohol around me to not be bored. Best I can do is video games(I’m lucky to have a laptop).

      • @Marin_Rider@aussie.zone
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        gaming is great (I usually play an hour or 2 a day) but break it up a bit. maybe do an online micro credential, you can normally find free short courses. learn a language (easy to do for free if you have internet and some time). learn a new skill. learn design so you can put the laptop to work. and every now and then, when gaming burns you out, learning is too much and you literally have no chance to do anything else, sit under a tree for a little bit. yes, even at night. it’ll help

      • @Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
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        17 months ago

        If you have a laptop that can play video games, there is so much else you can do. Not that there’s anything wrong with video games. Video games are awesome.

        • Radioactive Radio
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          I can, learned to use Linux. Learning python now. But I was talking about real world things like camping, and going on trips, watching snowfall(I’ve never seen snowfall), going to the beach or the zoo. You can only spend so much time in the virtual world, but the real world takes money and time.

  • @RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world
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    You’re supposed to find a passion or hobby that you can excel at in your spare time. Meanwhile, capitalism in the US has decided to make every effort to extract all possible time from you at bare minimum compensation so that you are too tired and too poor to ever figure out a hobby or passion you can effectively pursue.

      • @rckclmbr@lemm.ee
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        Do what you like? It takes a while. I tried 2 whole years of daily drawing for at least an hour. It wasnt a lifelong passion or anything, i just thought it would be cool to be able to sketch people. At 2 years I decided that I still suck and won’t get better and quit. Now I’m a mediocre bike racer. I still suck, but I enjoy it a bit more and it keeps me fit. Im late 30s btw

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        Dad always said if you are bored you are being a boring person. It changed my mindset to being a lifelong learner. Go pick up a new tool, software or physical it doesnt really matter. Could be a new language, learn to interface with a machine or person… Give yourself a small project to learn it, try to use as much of it as you can as a challange. Eventually you’ll learn to make your own tools. Even if they arent better, they have value. If you cant find enjoyment and satisfaction in learning try creating. I dont really like creating as much as debugging or modding stuff - aka learning something. I just rediscovered aoe2 and am not only learning the classes im relearning some history trying to follow up on the stories in the game. Its inspiring my reading materials.

        Life is about experience, not expertise imo. But the latter helps you feel confident or mentor, also satisfying activities.

          • @daemoz@lemmy.world
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            Tbf If you are standing in line you are being pretty boring. Its not a black and white virtue, it’s ok to be boring sometimes, it’s just a tool to use when you feel stagnation.

      • @Rodeo@lemmy.ca
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        Everything worth doing is hard at first. You just gotta embrace the suck, then you will begin to see improvement.

  • @dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    257 months ago

    It’s crazy. 20 years ago, no one would dare post something this anti-capitalist on the internet. Maybe in another 20 years, we’ll have posted enough anti-capitalist dystopian nightmare memes that we’ll actually want to do something about it.

    • @Perfide@reddthat.com
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      20 years ago, no one would dare post something this anti-capitalist on the internet

      I mean, no, people definitely still posted anti-capitalist stuff on the internet all the time in 2003. But it wasn’t the majority opinion like it is on the net now.

    • PorkRollWobbly
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      Shitposting and revolution are not mutually exclusive. I’m doing my part to abolish the wage system and I also be shitposting.

    • @Laticauda@lemmy.ca
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      Lmao what? People posted stuff this anti-capitalist on the internet all the time 20 years ago, were you browsing the internet with your eyes closed or something?

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    Surprisingly, I’ve found the most fulfillment from raising and caring for my three-year-old daughter. I always feel immense pride when I’m tidying up the house and come abroad a pile of drawings or an arrangement not only of her toys, but whatever things she’s found of mine (ie; the Peewee Herman action figure I keep beside my PC). But as fulfilling as it is, children are also inadvertently vampires and drain you of nearly everything you have. So I have to take pleasure in other things as well, like reading fiction, playing games with my wife, and spending time in nature. What I really need is a good mushroom trip through the forest, but it’s been several years since I’ve been comfortable enough to step away from responsibility and parenthood to do something like that, even though it’s a wonderful tool to bring one’s self back to earth and get your brain firing again.

    Highly recommend trying that if you’re in the same mental cycle as OP. Definitely don’t opt for children if your goal is fulfillment, though. You may gain something huge, but you’re also signing off on the other side of your life. It’s certainly not a good fit for everyone. You’d think this obvious advice, but a lot of people do just that and wind up miserable and resentful, and their kids in turn grow up with less love and respect than they could otherwise have.

    • @some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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      My brother told me to have kids. He said raising his daughter was the best thing he’s ever done. I don’t disagree, she’s awesome.

      I don’t find it surprising that being a parent is super rewarding if you do it well. I can’t imagine being a parent who raises a shitstain who does something terrible and having to live with that.

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        I’m coming up on 40 years old and 14 years with my wife. We’re pretty honest and open with people when they ask why we don’t have and don’t want kids. We have a nice house, good careers, and could easily afford it, but we just chose not to. The really scary thing is that I’ve had several friends candidly tell me they wish they never had kids. They love their kids more than anything, but they regret having them. I think our position makes it easier for people to confide in us and share those feelings, but I find that situation dreadful. Also, I realize that feelings change over time so they may feel differently now or in the future.

        • @pahlimur@lemmy.world
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          I have two daughters 7yrs and 7mths. No one should ever feel bad for not having kids. Especially if they don’t want them.

          Your friends are probably just venting (hopefully), so you are hearing the worst of it. Personally, I could never imagine my life without my kids and even though that 7mth old was screaming for a few hours today I wouldn’t swap this life for a child free one. It’s just different paths and you questioning it probably means you are a good person. Introspection is hard.

          My brains a bit fried from the screaming so hopefully this makes sense.

        • @eee@lemm.ee
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          As someone who’s currently struggling with this decision, it’s good to hear that you made a choice not to have kids, and don’t regret it 14 years on.

          I probably have the means to raise a child, but I’m not sure if I want to sacrifice the things I see my friends sacrificing to raise a child well (not to mention the world sucks and all that).

          The thing I’m most worried about is regretting my choice either way when I get older (ie having a child and regretting it, or not having a child and regretting that).

      • @pahlimur@lemmy.world
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        Our oldest (7) entered public school last year and my expectations for other parents lowered to a point that I never thought possible. I was worried she wouldn’t adjust well or would shut down, but nope the teachers gush to us about her constantly. I’m not patting myself on the back at all because it’s 90% my daughter being awesome and somehow having high emotional intelligence at her age. How proud I am is leaking out.

        Shit parents do create shit kids though. The saying is good parents often create good kids but bad parents almost always make bad kids. For example the douche parents at my kid’s school created the kid that steals from the teacher constantly and is in the “trouble room” every day.

      • @TopRamenBinLaden@sh.itjust.works
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        I mean there is a chance you can do everything well and still end up with a shitstain of a human when having kids. Sociopaths and Narcissists sometimes just happen.

  • @_number8_@lemmy.world
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    well no, you’re supposed to generate as much profit as possible for someone else at every moment. nothing is truly designed to help people or provide a good service anymore, at least not without hefty profit margins – as is their god given right. i mean its a business they hvae to do the number!!

    • @kromem@lemmy.world
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      Well, you know the old Greek saying:

      “A society grows great when people plant trees whose fruit they will not enjoy, for the corporation will have other people pick it, package it, and sell it back to them all at a 150% profit margin.”

  • @ThatFembyWho@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    There is no point. At least, there’s no overarching design or plan behind your existence. Instinctively we are driven to survive, so the question is: what else?

    While we exist, we have senses which can provide pleasure or pain, so the most selfish answer would be to seek pleasures and enjoy them while you can. The correlary being to minimize pain or suffering, which serves as a check on unrestrained pleasure.

    I like to take this a step further and work not only to optimize my own pleasure, but the pleasure of others around me. Then guilt is no longer an issue because your pleasure is complementary to theirs. They benefit when you reduce their pain and vice versa.

    I believe the original problem stems from artifically self-imposed limitations and expectations on what should be, rather than engaging with what is and imagining what could be.

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    Work all week, too tired to do something fun. Corporate profits unreasonably high and now I can’t afford to engage in activities. Individualistic, nuclear family, isolation because communes reduce profits. Breathing poisoned air, drinking contaminated water, eating trash, refined food. Lost in a maze of suburbs, battling long transit times, alone in a sea of cars. Everyone’s left for jobs, or busy working jobs, no time to meet new people.

    What is, like, the point?

    Do we sit in his emotional wasteland, producing for an other, alone and without the energy to do anything but work until we get sick and can’t afford healthcare / are told by doctors the elderly are not their priority as they’re no longer productive?

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      These are my thoughts every day right now, and I don’t know how to get out of that depression loop.

      I’m about a year and a half in remission from cancer. I started a new career to better my work-life balance and take care of my health. I thought surviving would give me a rejuvinated outlook on life, and I would “enjoy the little things” more.

      No. When does that start?

      Instead, I wake up every day thinking, what is the point? Who am I living for if I don’t have the time, money, or resources to do anything that brings joy to my life.

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          They don’t have enough time/energy/money to find fulfilling repast on the weekends and your advice is to leave the country?

          Such sage advuce should only be dispensed by Paris Hilton; “Stop being poor!”

          So easy.

    • @Raine_Wolf@lemm.ee
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      I’ll admit, because of my Christian upbringing, I have begun to wonder if this is Hell. Just enough hope for you to know that it could be better, but no memory of anything but this. There’s enough people not suffering (or at least pretending not to) to give hope, but no ability to ever change it. Isolation, pain, monotony, and just enough joy for most people to keep marching onward until they die, hoping that eventually it will get better.

      • @Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works
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        If this is a recurring thought I would highly suggest pointing you towards Buddhism. I highly recommend the book “in the face of fear” Buddhist wisdom for challenging times. It has writings from all sorts of intelligent people, and does a good job of explaining how to transform them into tools.

  • @samus12345@lemmy.world
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    HUMAN BEINGS MAKE LIFE SO INTERESTING. DO YOU KNOW, THAT IN A UNIVERSE SO FULL OF WONDERS, THEY HAVE MANAGED TO INVENT BOREDOM.

  • I Cast Fist
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    157 months ago

    Part of boredom is simply lacking direction and not knowing what to do/where to even start

    • Radioactive Radio
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      137 months ago

      Press escape key to check the objectives. Someone clearly didn’t complete the tutorial.

      • The Barto
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        My tutorial went like this

        Welcome to th

        *smashes spacebar*

        Press X t

        *smashes spacebar*

        Press e to

        *smashes spacebar*

        You can r (hold escape to exit tutor

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    137 months ago

    My thought process during covid. I bought a motorcycle and basically can’t stay in one place anymore.