As a woman whose had the same struggle it really does suck, but I can say from personal experience it can be improved and there are ways to deal with it.

I’ve been on both sides of it actually and I think I learned this behavior from my parents who I grew up comforting.

One big piece of advice I have is that it’s too easy to flip between extremes here. The response to close off doesn’t help. I have two big techniques that’re helping me here: cbt practice, and pre processing. The latter is basically I step away from loved ones when I’m having too much emotions. Sometimes that means taking a walk without my phone, sometimes it’s locking myself in a room to cry. I get the big stuff out of the way so I can share my feelings while they’re at a manageable level.