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Cake day: December 24th, 2025

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  • That was my understanding. Dad wants to make his kid’s dream of being a pop star come true, so he spends tons of money to make it happen, and she became a meme because all the money can’t make up for lack of talent. There was probably also some schadenfreude when held against all of the other artificially boosted Disney pop star kids who were still in the internet’s collective memory at the time.

    I should also say that I have no opinions on Rebecca Black as a person, she could be a really lovely and genuine person for all I know. And apparently she is still out there making music, which is fine if it makes her happy.

    But damn did I hate hearing that song. Still do. It’s just a bad song.


  • Definitely something to be said about how gender isn’t “real,” but people’s perception of it is.

    There’s no pattern of masculine or feminine behavior/style that is consistent across cultures and throughout history. It’s all arbitrary.

    But that binary perception of masculine/feminine is nevertheless all around us, even if it’s not consistently represented.

    I’d like to think that not much would change about my style or mannerisms if I had been born with different parts, and I find it odd how unnecessarily gendered so many aspects of society are. I’m just “me,” what else would I want to be? But I also need to remind myself that I only think that way because I’ve never had to worry about being seen as something other than what I am, even if I don’t feel that strongly about it. It’s easy to overlook just how much of my life experience has been colored by my effortless gender presentation.

    Not everyone gets that by default, and it’s hard to put myself in those shoes because I simply can’t understand what it’s like to be viewed as the opposite gender, or why it might cause discomfort.

    If I were airlifted to some other culture that viewed pants as feminine and skirts as masculine, would I toss all of my jeans to conform? I’d like to think I wouldn’t, because I like the comfort of pants and attributing a gender standard to clothes has always seemed silly to me. But if it affected the way people saw me, I just might.













  • It never hurts just to start tossing out applications and see what you get. The best way to get better at interviewing is to do more interviews. Even if you think your odds of landing something are low, just go into it with the mentality of getting more practice until it feels comfortable. And who knows, you might be surprised by a good offer.

    But I would also recommend being selective with where you apply, too. Basically don’t sell your skillset too low, and don’t apply for the types of open-ended jobs that will attract thousands of applicants and only waste your time. It can be absolutely soul crushing to send out 100 applications and never even get a response from 90 of them, but a good opportunity will come along eventually and you can develop a sense of which listings aren’t worth your time.