I completely agree. I don’t feel many women want to participate in discussions anymore because of what it turns into. I myself don’t want to because it’s a train wreck and it’s not like the people who don’t get it want to try to understand. Each post thread makes that more and more aparent. They seem more concerned with ripping it apart and making women’s very real concerns about their safety seem irrational and invalid.

Giving up on participating won’t help, but at this point it doesn’t seem anything will. It’s just easier to not waste the energy to argue something that a sadly large portion of people aren’t willing to try and comprehend.

Part of the reason many SA victims don’t report is exactly what’s happening with these posts. We aren’t taken seriously. We aren’t believed, we are gaslighted, we are blamed. We get dragged through the mud the entire way for being a victim and might not even get justice. Why go through that