This question was inspired by a meme I just saw, and my longtime crush on Brad Pitt, who’s 45 years older than me.
Youngest: my age. Oldest: if it’s someone in as good shape as Brad Pitt, the sky’s the limit.
This depends on what you mean by date
If you mean pursue a long term relationship, the answer probably is around 30 and 45
If you mean a short term fling or one time thing, the answer is 25 to probably 60. This depends a lot on their physical condition.
Edit: also, F38
Damn! We’d fit perfectly (ok, on the edges), if only I was in good physical condition /s
But seriously I totally agree, where I previously strongly preferred someone near to my age, that no longer seems as relevant.
- a short term thing would be purely physical. I wouldn’t be too picky
- a relationship would have to be about as active as me, similar interests, etc. one of the challenges is compatible sex drive and that gets harder with age
M<older>- probably consider 40-60 but would be suspicious of the ulterior motives of the younger ones
Joke answer: whomever my wife would let us.
Actual answer: I don’t know. I’m in my mid 40s. If I had to start over for some reason and was looking for a serious relationship, at least 30s as the minimum. Max would be low 50s, probably, though I’ve not thought a ton about it.
Actualer answer: if I ever lost my wife, I doubt I could/would pursue a serious relationship again or at least for a long enough time to make my answer above probably innacurate.
I think I’d be done for good.
Half my age +7 and double my age -7
This is the correct formula.
I only date people who are physiologically in their twenties but chronologically in their one hundred and twenties.
/I have a thing for time travelers.
Vampires?
38yo Male, cis and dull.
30-45?
Seems like an alright range. Ten over, ten under maybe so too.
Give me a rich, generous, elderly, asexual sugar-mama or give me death.
I used that formula to half-jokingly look for a partner on my blog. And it worked. I was 22 and she was 27. “So old!” I thought back then. Didn’t help that she sent me a really ugly blurry photo. Still, I was desperate and liked our conversations.
Now we’re married and laugh about that “huge age gap”.
Im a dude which means if someones an adult im not likely to shy away. Realistically there is a point where someone younger than me is not going to be attracted to me or the commanality factor is not there or our lives simply would not mesh. Granted im married so this is all theoretical alternate univers where I was not. Similarly when it comes to older its likely to be more about looks. We all know some folks that keep themselves fit and if someone is hot they are hot. Now the limiting factor there is im not exactly fit and you have to be realistic in expectations. Anyway I don’t think its about age when it comes to attraction. Its physicality and personality meshing.
Im a dude which means if someones an adult im not likely to shy away.
That’s not what the word “dude” means. Just because you’d fuck anyone old enough to give consent doesn’t mean all men would.
this is a good example of taking one part of a reply and not looking at the full nuance. Im expressing myself and who I am and its great you differ. I get that people differ. Its like a sterotype. Are they untrue. Not completely in my experience but everyone does not meet the stereotype. In this keep I do. To some degree. Again if you take into account everything I said it would be obvious im not talking about just fucking.
I’m curious - why would you never go younger than yourself, but don’t have an issue with the older person going decades younger for you?
EDIT - just found out your 17 which changes things. I’ll get my coat.
where does this me being 17 thing come from?
i’ve been open about my age since i first got on here. even had an asklemmy post about birthday celebrations months ago
62-45= 17?
20 and 24, ideally
Half your age plus 7 is an okay rule for finding the floor. Don’t aim for the floor. Plus 10 is less eyebrow raising.
10 is waaay too young bro
…what? Poor joke or failure at math?
Just a dumb joke because that’s how it initially read to me.
“Plus, it’s just easier to go with a nice, round 10-year-old.”
Your comment is unfortunately easy to misread as “Plus, 10 is less eyebrow raising” and then skip the math…
I think +7 is common because it’s the kind of rule that mostly matters when you’re young, and more than 7 breaks it too often. For instance +10 means as an 18y/o I would have to date a 19 y/o… where-as +7 makes sense for people as young as 14.
Meme in question:
I’m 37. Oldest: maybe a 40? Youngest: maybe 25? Just by the looks, I could go far younger, but I don’t want to have to go through the whole becoming an adult shenanigans again, and I wouldn’t want to have to babysit an insecure person, whose insecurity stems from their lack of experience - important distinction, because some people have some insecure traits (myself included)!!!
Youngest: A mayfly, born this morning and destined to die this evening, which landed on my nose.
Oldest: A mountain with ancient bones, eroded by the aeons to a mere hill with sides of crumbling rock.
Oh you mean humans? Well, anyone between the ages of 47 and 52 I guess.
My dad is 98 and he started dating an 82-year-old. It seems to be going really well. She can’t drive and he still does so that probably increased his appeal.
Is he still mentally fit to drive at 98? Damn that’s impressive. You’ve got some good genes.
Yeah. I’ve started taking care of myself know that this body might have to do me for a long time. He’s also still doing woodworking. Makes amazing stuff.
Recently I had an operation and was in a semiprivate recovery room with a man who turned out to be 77. I’m 38. While chatting with each other to pass the time, I was on some pretty heavy painkillers. (He refused any pain remediation stronger than Tylenol. He was a veteran and, I suspect based on his reaction to any offerings, had seen friends succumb to addictions.)
Anyway, despite being drugged, I managed not to say the first two things that came to mind:
- “Wow, you’re almost exactly double my age!”
- “Whoa, that’s how old my dad was when he died.”
All that to lead up to … If you have any pictures to share, I’d love to see the creative works of a 98-year-old!
That’s awesome.
