The first time I allowed myself to wear a dress when I first saw myself in the mirror as a woman I immediately understood how it feels to identify with your body. Before I would always say I am not a body I only inhabit it. But as soon as I could see myself as a woman something clicked in my brain and for the first time I felt like I was that body. Before that I didn’t even know that was something one could feel. So at least for me gender is very real.
I still haven’t worn skirts often sadly - I feel the ‘parts’ are in the way. And I don’t know how to tuck them effectively - I have shapewear, but that’s it. Tucking it into the body I cannot do.
Plus I feel like I don’t dare yet to go full skirty outside yet. I’m taking E and pass for many, but for myself I feel like I don’t yet – due to my jawline. I don’t know if you’ve done so yet, but how do you overcome that fear? How do people react?
If it’s specifically your jawline that troubles you, have you considered starting by wearing a mask? They’re not as common as COVID days, but it’s normalized enough. It could be a good way to test the waters and build up more confidence.
I’m not the person you asked, and I can’t personally relate. Apologies if what I said is unwelcomed.
Unfortunately I can’t help you there. I still remember wanting to dress super cutely feminine only to look into a mirror and find myself too masculine to pull it off and sadly changing to wear something else. Or the first time I tried to wear heels only to get scared after a few steps outside and hurry back inside to change. Only facial feminisation surgery did it for me and now I know I pass.
The first time I allowed myself to wear a dress when I first saw myself in the mirror as a woman I immediately understood how it feels to identify with your body. Before I would always say I am not a body I only inhabit it. But as soon as I could see myself as a woman something clicked in my brain and for the first time I felt like I was that body. Before that I didn’t even know that was something one could feel. So at least for me gender is very real.
I still haven’t worn skirts often sadly - I feel the ‘parts’ are in the way. And I don’t know how to tuck them effectively - I have shapewear, but that’s it. Tucking it into the body I cannot do.
Plus I feel like I don’t dare yet to go full skirty outside yet. I’m taking E and pass for many, but for myself I feel like I don’t yet – due to my jawline. I don’t know if you’ve done so yet, but how do you overcome that fear? How do people react?
If it’s specifically your jawline that troubles you, have you considered starting by wearing a mask? They’re not as common as COVID days, but it’s normalized enough. It could be a good way to test the waters and build up more confidence.
I’m not the person you asked, and I can’t personally relate. Apologies if what I said is unwelcomed.
Unfortunately I can’t help you there. I still remember wanting to dress super cutely feminine only to look into a mirror and find myself too masculine to pull it off and sadly changing to wear something else. Or the first time I tried to wear heels only to get scared after a few steps outside and hurry back inside to change. Only facial feminisation surgery did it for me and now I know I pass.